Should I boot her out of the bridal party?

Question

I am having a wedding soon and I have four bridesmaids. One of them is a good friend of mine from school, but she has shown NO interest in the wedding at all. She has not attended my bridal shower (when everyone else did), she did not attend the dress shopping, she did not attend the bachelorette party and has complained about the fact that she will have to get a hotel the night before the wedding. I have another girl who has done so much for me and my wedding. Should I boot the 1st girl off and put the other one on? PLEASE help.

Answer 1

YOu should have discussed these expectations with her early on if they were that important to you. She should have also spoken up if there would be problems. DId she give reasons for not coming. If she gave you good notice with a reason then you have no reason to be upset, people have lives outside of your wedding and as long as they are polite then you can't treat them like slaves. It is rude to just not show or give short notice if she knew long before she would not be going, but again she does have a life.  She shouldn't be complaining just because shes lazy, but is she spending money she doesn't have on the hotel? Is it a necessary thing that isn't inconveniencing her or is this something you just decided you wanted that means she had to cancel important plans? Even if she is being silly, it is late and a bit harsh. It is really up to you, and there is way too much for strangers that don't know all the details to really help with.

Answer 2

it is your day if she is upsetting you then boot her out  

Answer 3

Boot her out.Its obvious she dont want to be a part of your wedding.******...........Get rid of her

Answer 4

Have you asked her WHY? Maybe she has something going on in her life that is really troubling her. Maybe she is busy with school.

I don't think it's right to "boot her" from the bridal party. She isn't a Maid Of Honor, the maid of honor is the one with the most responsibilities.

Answer 5

Just ignore her at this late date. If you give her the boot, know that it will probably end your relationship. She should have attended the shower and bachelorette, if she could, but the rest of it - eh. If she has to travel for the wedding you really should be paying for the hotel for any attendant having to travel.

At this point, I would just forget about her and focus on what is important - the ceremony and your groom!

Answer 6

Have a talk with her. Ask her if she wants to be in the wedding or if she would rather step down and just be a guest. Tell her that you would understand. Maybe she is having money problems and is too embarrassed to tell you. But before you ask her to step down you should talk to her.

Answer 7

wow....i would first ask her why she's doing this and then I would tell her that you have more important things [plan a wedding] then to worry about such things...then I would boot her out only if her excuses seem ridiculous