Should I break the engagement?

Question

My fiance's mother is a sweet demon. She seems nice on the outside but she always finds a way to hurt me. Everytime my fiance disagrees with her, she finds a way to say that it is my fault. I really think she has it out for me.I figure since she is in her fifties, I can stay away from her for about 10 years and maybe she'll be dead in twenty. I don't know if I should go ahead and marry him and deal with it or if I should call it off and quit while I'm ahead.

Answer 1

my mother in law and I argue constantly.  She is a pain in my rear end half of the time, but I love her anyways.  She doesn't find ways to irritate me on purpose I think.  We just don't see eye to eye.  But I am glad that didn't stop me from marrying her son.  So it really depends on how much you love your fiance.  My husband is smart enough to not always agree with her.  so it works out.  

Answer 2

Let me give you a reminder...she's a mother-in-law, most mother in laws don't like their daughter-in-laws

Answer 3

Although in-laws can be incredibly annoying, there are times when you have to stick it out. Do you really love this man? Would you do anything for him? If so, just deal with his Satan-incarnate of a mother.

Answer 4

If you really love him then no matter how horrible the mother in law to be is, it should not stop you. and if it is that big of a problem you might could sit down and talk with him about it.

But if it is not something that you think that the love that the two of you have is strong enough then your right I think you should break off the engagement and rethink things.

Answer 5

Don't let her affect your life. Shes probably scared shes lossing her son. moms get like that. An dont tlk c**p to ur fiance about his mom, thts his mother, you never get hurt the others family. Just suck it up, and deal. Thats all you can do really and hope one day she will come around.

Answer 6

If you really love him you wouldnt leave him cause of his demon mother lol. Now if you leave that will hurt him, plus you are giving her the benefit of the doubt cause you left him and that could be one of her things she wanted all along. All you need to do is sit down and talk to her about it with him the room with you guys, tell her how you feel, tell you dont like what she does, and she needs to accepted in for who you are. Put your foot down and talk to her while hes there. Good luck and wish you the best.

Answer 7

Depends on how much you love him? Could you marry him and "deal" with the demon?? Or no way?

Answer 8

I'd call it off. She could live to be 95...my mother is h**l-on-wheels and I'm pretty sure she's going to live to be 130..she's 79 right now and in perfect health!

The older she gets, the worse she will get, too. Been there, done that.

Answer 9

ever watch monster in law? that's what it will be like. h**l. Talk to your fiance...tell them how you feel..,maybe they'll talk to her...and if it doesn't calm down then maybe you should think about calling it off. There's no reason to torture yourself in something that should be the best time of your life.

Answer 10

I know this is not what you want to hear but I just had a baby boy (8.5 months old). He is the sweetest little boy - the love of my life. It kills me to know that with all the love I pour into him I'll still be easily replaced by his gf/wife. I would be very upset if his fiance wishes me dead in 20 years. In a perfect world your mother in law would stay out of everything, but please cut her some slack. I bet she feels like she's losing her son to you. Maybe if you're extra sweet to her she won't feel as threatened and even a little guilty for hurting you in those subtle ways. Good luck, I hope you're able to work this out.

Answer 11

Trying talking to him about it. Thats what I had to do with my mother in law. he then talked to his dad and his mom and  expland that her behavior was hurting him and i and that something had to change

Answer 12

NO!! if you love him enough to marry him then you defiantly wouldn't want to not be with him because of his d**n mother. You'll just be giving her what she wants ...you need to have a one on one with her and be stern, let her know that you are marrying your son and you want a good relationship with her but you feel she is always attacking you and it's made you feel unwelcome. Maybe if you have a talk she will know how much damage she is doing ...if that doesn't work then have your fiance talk to her and if that still doesn't work then at least your future husband knows how you feel and knows whats really going on. don't worry, in laws are not the marriage they are just a small part!!

Answer 13

If you love him then deal with her.

Answer 14

If you really really love your fiance you wouldn't even be asking this question.  Not trying to be mean or anything.  But no I wouldn't call off the engagement for her.  Why lose out on your love?  Just talk to him about the situation and maybe he can talk to her.  Maybe as time passes you may stand to like each other.  Or maybe you wont and you'll just have to stay away from her.  But dont lose out on love for that.  Love is such a wonderful thing.