Should I break up with my cheating partner?

Question

My partner is Cyb-er cheating on me. I found the chats and he was doing Cyb er s x with them and hooking up their web cams. He claims it was a downward spiral and it took him till four weeks ago to stop. He says it was harmless words but I don't know what to think. I do not use the computer much and have no idea how the internet world works? he said to one girl that he will ask her to marry him ???? He said it was again just words, to get more dirty with this one girl, I have no idea what to think. Help

Answer 1

i definitely think you should part ways.... I `m speaking from experience(being the cyber chatter) it`s not worth it .I almost lost my family over it......

Answer 2

nikki ... do the same to him and see him get upset with you i bet .. now just get rid of the as$ .. hole  

Answer 3

if he is cheating on you on the computer than you can't trust him in the real qorld. seriously dump him, if you are willing to give him a second chance, you DEFINITELY deserve better.

Answer 4

if he is cheating through a computer, he will eventually be cheating on u in real life.its not harmless, it leads to the real thing.

Answer 5

i think you should break up him

words are not harmless

Answer 6

sorry you made such a shocking discovery.  If he is having cyber with cameras and all, one of these days he will definitely turn it into real life.  He is not worth your time, energy or your trust.

Answer 7

Do not agree to continuing the relationship unless he agrees to get counselling.

Answer 8

Tell him to go marry her!

Could you do that?

If you feel he cheated by doing this, then he DID!

How he made you feel is what he did. You asked, So I believe you felt the betrayal! If you did:

I say again....

Tell him to go marry her!

Can you do that?

Answer 9

Are you not satisfying him enough?  That's usually why us guys cheat.

Answer 10

Leave you dont need to be treated like that. Words hurt more then actions. Good luck =]

Answer 11

Cheating almost always progresses. If he feels ok enough to cheat on you online, he's only warming up. Someone who can trample all over your emotions and place so little value on your relationship isn't worth sticking around for to see how badly he can hurt you in the long run. Get out while you can, with a painful lesson learned.

Answer 12

Cheating is cheating. You should kick him to the curb, especially if they are using webcams and getting it on. That is the same as having s*x in a secluded motel room. What if you ignore it and it leads to that?

Confront the problem now, throw away the webcam, and tell him to get his act straight.

Answer 13

Not enough info to answer should or shouldn't ?? But get to a therapist and quick!  Together!  it is not hopeless if he is telling you the truth.  Keep in mind you may never know the details, and the details are not important.  Let him talk to the counselor alone, too, so he can come to terms with where this all started.  Sometimes things happen because they are too available, and we don't anticipate weakness until it is too late and we've already let our guard down.  of course you will have to establish trust, and he will have to behave in a way you can accept, with consistency and honesty.  A counselor will help you sort out what is important to talk about and what can be ignored (even if you think its important, sometimes certain details really have no bearing on a person's emotional state). If you can't see a counselor, then do your best to let him know you are angry without being abusive, and take turns talking and listening.  If something was missing with you, or if it was just an opportunity he took, or whatever other circumstances led to this, it is not something you should have to bargain for.  He needs to do the work to figure it out, but please be careful he is not being too vague about his feelings or intentions, with you or anybody else.  you have reason to worry, but we all make mistakes, maybe he can get over it.  Don't worry about the exact words he wrote.  People are in a fantasy world sometimes and will say anything if they think they will not be reminded of it later. These are not deep intimate relationships.  Its entertainment.  I would also be concerned that perhaps YOUR relationship is not all that intimate emotionally.  does he treat you with respect?  Is he respectful towards women in general?  that is something you need to think seriously about.  

Answer 14

Kick his *** to the curb.  He is looking for someone else and when he finds her he is going to cheat physically if he isn't already.

Answer 15

well,, there's truely nothing wrong with it..........what are they going to do?reach threw the computer.

maybe you need to try different things in the bedroom.(that might help)

Answer 16

I feel bad for you...you do know that there's a possibility for him to meet these people...

This is a tough one but if this is making you uncomfortable and he truly care about you, he shouldn't do this again... but I can't say that he won't.  Just be careful. I can't advice you right now if you should break up with him or not but everyone makes mistake and it's what they do about that mistake that counts.  If he continues, than you will have to take some painful measure and just let him go have s*x with his computer and you'll have to move on.

Answer 17

I think you do know what to think.. HE IS CHEATING and u d**n well know it.. You can't trust this guy.. People like him get off on doing things behind people's back and thinking they can get away with it.. Prove him wrong.. Log into his account or something and find out who all these girls are.. They're being lied to too, so speak up and tell them whats really going on, you'd do them a favour.. But maybe ud rather kill them than do any favours for them, I know..

Im really sick of it when girls find out there man is cheating & instantly they blame the other women.. Its all the mans fault!!! Women need to learn to stick together & respect eachother, don't go calling eachother sl%t, h03 or b1tc4, hitting eachother or dating other womens boyfriends or husbands..

Women really need to wake up & really wonder if a man is somebody they can trust, who is committed to them, who knows alot of things about them & spends most of his time with them..

There are men out there who really enjoy playing women like this & will never think of women as human beings, they will never care about their feelings.. Go & take the time to move on & find a real man who will show you what love really is..

Answer 18

Oviously he is not satisfied with you! that is why he cheats. Why stay with someone who doesn't appreciate you and keep the right person who does appreciate you from meeting you