Should I break up with my fiance because he went to a strip club?

Question

My fiance was out late last night and he admitted he went to a strip club after work. I am not normally real uptight about him looking at other girls but this really bothered me because I discovered he ejaculated in his pants. (when he got home he buried them in the laundry basket instead of throwing them on the floor like he usually does, so I became suspicious). I confronted him and he admitted he got $600 in lap dances and did ejaculate in his pants. And to make it even worse he admitted he purposely did not wear underwear so he could "feel" better during the dance. I am so upset. I cried all last night because the way I see it, he cheated on me. He says it is no big deal, but I think he basically had s*x with this s**t with his clothes on. I can't get the image out of my mind. We are supposed to get married in 4 months and I am thinking of calling the whole thing off. He went to work this morning and we have not spoken since last night. Is he a cheater? What should I do??

Answer 1

He crossed the line. You're not over-reacting. Get out now. Let him have his strippers grinding on him. He's not ready for a committed relationship. He disrespected you. Going to strip club is one thing, getting a lap dance when you're in a relationship is totally inappropriate. And his was extreme!! $600, no undies and he ejaculated. Sheesh! Drop the loser.

Answer 2

If he's lying about this, what else is he lying about? Have you ever thought that maybe he did more than just a lap dance??? He might have admitted to the $600 only because you have ways of finding that out later on... and thought that admitting to that would maybe took what he had done and minimized it. I think strip clubs are cheating. No matter how you slice it or dice it, it all comes down to someone else staring at another naked person. Tell me how a strip club has ever fixed a problem in a marriage or relationship. People say, oh yeah we go together all the time, and it brings us even closer. PLEASE! There's probably some tinge of jealousy in someone's mind at one point or another!!  DO NOT MARRY THAT MAN!!