Should I buy them something anyway?

Question

My brother is a groomsman and my sister is my MOH.They don't want me to get them a gift.Should I anyways,and what can I get for them?

Answer 1

If you can afford to do so, then probably. Select something inexpensive, yet meaningful. It's great that you've started to think about their hobbies. That is a good starting point.

Answer 2

Yes, if they're part of your bridal party and have done something for you.  Jewellery, cuff links, vouchers for a nice day out, photo frame with the promise of a nice photo of you all together on the day.  Anything like that would be nice.

Answer 3

Get them someone practical you know will enjoy using.  They are likely picturing monogramed nicknacks from things remembered as wedding presents...which I am convinced very few people actually want.

Answer 4

Please honor people's wishes when they say they do not want gifts.

If you feel you MUST do something, then make a donation in their names to one of their favorite charities. They'll be touched.

Hope that helps!

Answer 5

Yes.  Often you get all of the bridesmaides and bridegrooms the same thing.

Answer 6

You absolutely should get them something anyway. They have most likely spent a ton on your special day. Focus on their interests. Giftcards always work if you are stuck.

Answer 7

A nice bottle of wine and some chocolates would be nice.

Answer 8

Yes you should get them a little something...

Since your brother is into travel books a gift certificate for a book store so he can choose a book or two for himself would be excellent..  You can present it with a small knick-knack from a place in the world you know your brother is interested in...  Such as a vase or plate from Japan or a carved wooden animal from Africa..  Check on-line for the item you can usually find something small rather inexpensively...

For your sister what is her favorite sport sellect an item relating to that sport (a jersey etc.) and give her that and a gift certificate for a store she enjoys shopping at...

Answer 9

yes cuz it'd look bad on you if you only get gifts for your other bridesmaid....

Answer 10

Take them to dinner and/or invite them over for one.  At the dinner you can present them with a heartfelt letter explaining what they mean to you and how happy you are they will be sharing this day.

You show your appreciation but still honor their wishes.  I'm sure they are thinking that if you don't buy them a gift it will give you more money to help with wedding expenses or to set up a home.

Answer 11

Yes I would. Give them gift cards to a restaurant that they like. It's simple, and most people appreciate the thought.

Answer 12

If anything, I would stick with the gift cards.

Forgive me for assuming, but it is my opinion that you are on good, if not great, terms with them since they are both involved in the wedding party.  They possibly feel that the honor of the both of them so closely involved is gift enough.  And if they feel that you are marrying someone who truly loves you, then they are already feeling like they have gotten a gift in someone who will treat their sister very well.  And being your siblings, they probably have a depth of knowledge as to how well (or, God forbid, not well) your finances have been impacted and desire no further impact on their part.

A card or letter that states how much you appreciate them is also a wonderful idea (as 'pspoptart stated!).

Maybe give those to them in a setting where it is just the 4 of you and if anyone else in the wedding party asks, you can say that you chose to give them their gifts privately.  Leave it up to the siblings to decide if they tell everyone else what they have received.

And a big congratulations on your wedding!  Hope everything goes well and - even better - that all goes as exactly as you planned!

Answer 13

Yes, get them a gift.

Answer 14

yes of course, you should get all the groomsmen and bridesmaids a gift