Should I call her today or wait?

Question

She's not my girlfriend but I've hung out with her a few times and have gotten to know and like her a lot. I've known her for 8 months from work but only started seeing her in the past few weeks. We have been very open and honest. We have had some (in her words) "amazing" moments together without having s*x. She is single, living alone, stubborn and going through really tough times physically/ emotionally/ financially and I want to be there for her. She had skin cancer removed 2 weeks ago and I sent her flowers but haven't seen her outside of work since. Did I mess up by texting/calling her almost every day after her surgery just to talk and see how she's doing? She has been kinda frigid to me at work (avoids eye contact, won't talk much, smile or laugh) but still treats others at work the same as always. Thursday she will find out if the cancer has spread and I won't work with her til Sunday. Should I call her today to clear things up or wait til Thursday when I can get the cancer update and see how she responds? Thanks.

Answer 1

She might be "Frigid" ( I hate that word ) because she is going through a major health crisis. You might want to give her a little space, it seems like you've done a lot to let her know your there for her. Try to be sympathetic, the flowers was sweet of you. I'd wait until thursday, just to give her a little time. Shes probably pretty worried right now and anxious about the results, you don't want to put even more on her plate than she already has. Until then, just keep being there for her and being a Friend. And don't worry about if you contacted her too much, whats done is done and you did it for the right reasons right?