Should I call him? Or make him call me?

Question

I generally expect men to call me if they like me or whatever. So I gave my number to a guy and he said he would call me. He never did...he also has my email address so he emails me and says "sorry, I didn't call when I said I would, but I got busy" He then says "You should call me sometime my number is....."

Why not just call me? I don't have a lot of respect for men who don't have the balls to call me up. I feel like his excuse is lame, and I don't want to call him. But it seems like most men I have met lately have done this exact same thing. So Ladies, would you call him? Or just write him off as a loss and move on?

Answer 1

call him but then hang up really fast so he saw that you called but he cant pick it up...then he will call back :D

Answer 2

Go with your gut feeling. You're right. He should have called you first. Don't feed into his games. When he's ready to be a man, he'll pick up the phone. Until then, you have other important things to tend to.  

Answer 3

Move on, if he is interested, he will call!!! Maybe you aren't going out with the right guys, for now if another one does that chock that up to experience and move on. Make sure the ones you pick have the same values as you and are looking for the same things. Good luck!

Answer 4

um i think u should wait for him to call you

or email him back and be like "y dont u jst call me u have my number"

or something like "wen ur not too "busy"...give me a ring. i dont wana interefere with ur "busy" schedule by calling u"

just an idea haha idk

but i like ur name

i love cute black guys 2

Answer 5

Oh call him already and stop being a hard nose instead of sitting all day long and waiting for everyone to do everything for you.

Answer 6

let him go

Answer 7

well, sending a sorry by email is lame.  Why couldn't he just call and say sorry?

Eh, move on

Answer 8

Your totally right. He's just very shy with you or he might not be interested. Guys are the ones that call the girls =] Not the other way around.

Answer 9

Call him. Guys like a girl who has enough confidence to call them and he will know that you are into him. Maybe you should just let him hold all the cards and see where he places them

Answer 10

Well if you have little respect for guys who don't call you then really is there any point in you calling him?

Not all guys make the first call as they either like to be chased or they like to know for definite the girl likes them in the first place.

Answer 11

well, its not a lame excuse.  why dont you just call him?  Its more of a "Im in control" type of thing.  You do the same thing.  You dont want to call him at all. And its not about having balls or not.  Its not like he is scared.  If he was, he would never email you even.  Write him off as a loss?  So he is a material thing to you?  Did it ever occur to you that he might feel the same way towards you?  I ran into the same situation a while back, but it had a small twist to it.  I called, but she never really picked up.  So, I asked her to call me.  She never did, so I just quit thinking she wasnt interested.  I was looking to be in control or leading the way for anything.  Just wanted to try a meaningful relationship.  But, once I felt that there was some sort of "make him call" attitude, I just called it quits.  Because, what if she didnt like me, and just wanted to make me call?  You see where Im coming at?

Answer 12

Move on.  

Answer 13

take a chance and call him!!! if most guys r doing this to u it shood be a sign!  

Answer 14

hey u can call just to be friends. you don't have to wait for them to call you just to tell you they like you or something. it would be fine just call him and talk to him about how hes doing. good luck :)

Answer 15

Mmmmm well if he's hot and you like him you should call him only once then wait for him to call when he would like to, hes probably kinda of shy or already has a girlfriend you know men..............

Answer 16

ALWAYS make the guy call you

Answer 17

Be glad you saw this side of him before you two actually went out. Count your blessings and move on to someone worth your energy.

If he really wanted to talk to you he would make time.

Answer 18

He doesn't call you when he said he would then sends you an email in apology?  Wouldn't it have been just as quick to call you instead of emailing?

I would forget about this guy.  I agree with you, I like to be called, especially if they say they're going to.

Answer 19

haha, I'm definitely eager to see an answer for this.  The guy I like is the same.  He doesn't ignore me but he always manages to get things where it's up to ME to call him!

My guess is that they are afraid to catch us at a bad time when they might get 'rejected' to hang out or something.  I know that's what's going through my head when I'm about to call him. I'm afraid I won't know what to say or that he's already hanging out with someone else and so can't hang out with me and I'll have put myself out there for nothing.

Answer 20

Call him, but not right away, if he NEVER calls you after the first date then just leave it at that, then he has issues with the phone:p