Should I cancel the appointment with my psychologist?

Question

I’m sorry about asking this here, but here is the only place that I don’t yet feel the need to ban myself from.

I don’t want to speak to my psychologist again (well, I do want to, but I also don't). He’s busy – it’s really difficult to get an appointment with him. I feel bad about taking up his time and using the time of people who legitimately need to see him. I don’t get to see him often, and have mentioned that it bothers me. His response was that he thinks it might help if I saw him more regularly… but I know he doesn’t have the time for that. I think it would be better if I didn’t have another appointment with him. I have one scheduled in 2 weeks, but am thinking of canceling. He certainly has no reason to see me, and I don’t have a real reason for seeing him.

Sure, some of the time I don’t feel the best, but that’s no excuse to be speaking to anyone about such things. I’m the one keeping myself in this negative mindset, and causing all of my problems.

I feel guilty about bothering all the people that I have – 2 forums, 1 free professional service, my psych, and you guys, plus all the people that are otherwise involved. I can’t go back to 1 forum at all, I’m trying to quit the other forum, I’ve told the professional service that they won’t have to hear from me again. I shouldn’t be speaking here or to anyone. You may not be able to see it immediately, but I’m an awful, selfish person.

Anyway, should I cancel my psych appointment and force myself to stop talking rubbish?

Answer 1

You shouldn't be sorry for asking at all, this is what it's here for!

After reading that - It really seems that you have a terribly low opinion of yourself, and that really isn't good, and something that you should try and work through with a psychologist. You have as much right as anyone to be there as anyone else seeing him.

You must understand that you are not bothering anyone - Really. I personally feel happy to help you in any way, as I'm sure everyone on the professional psych board, and forums do. That is what they're there for.

I suggest you stay with him and try and work through your problems with self-worth. And if you want to email me or anything [which I don't mind!], feel free. :)

Edit: Yes, unfortunate as it is, a******s are everywhere. We just need to ignore them.

Answer 2

Jessie, you are obviously filled with guilt and shame.  This produces negative feelings and outlook towards life.

You should see a psychologist.  If your present one is too busy, find a new one.

You need to talk out your feelings and bring them to the surface.  The psychologist will help you to focus and think clearly and positively.

Your life can change with this redirecting of thought processes.

Go see a psychologist and talk and talk and talk.  They want to help people better themselves.  That's their calling in life.

Answer 3

You are certainly not alone in this one. I don't go to a psychologist, but my mood is usually down. i fret about the littlest things. I get through it all by thinking about all the good things that have happened in my life and try and focus on something else.  For instance, maybe when you are starting to feel low, go outside and ride your bike or something. Take your mind off of the things that are bothering you. Or you could always invite a trusted friend over that you could talk to and get advice. There are so many options. I say cancel it. You can help yourself without wasting any money

Answer 4

Here's the bottom line:

You hire a psychologist to be of help to you. You are purchasing his/her time and expertise. If you find therapy helpful, then by all means attend the appointment. If you do not find it helpful, then you would be wise to cancel your appointment.

Your therapist is perfectly capable of managing his/her schedule. It would be unwise to assume that you represent some sort of burden for him/her.

Best of luck in your decision making process,

~M~