Should I confess to my best friend?

Question

My best friend and I have known each other since the start of high school and now we become more distant than before because of college. Thing is I love her, but don't know if I should tell her because I am afraid it would ruin the friendship we have now. Any thoughts on what I should do?

I should also add, that I THINK she is talking to someone, not really sure and I think that she likes him so should I keep quiet and keep my feelings to myself?

Answer 1

I don't agree with previous comments that she isn't a true friend if she feels weird after you tell her you love her.

At the end of the day you have been best friends for a long time and they thought of something further with you may or may not have crossed her mind.  If it hasn't crossed her mind and you tell her your feelings you have changed the whole balance of your friendship, I'm by no means saying don't tell her how you feel but be prepared that you may not get the same response from her and she may feel differently towards you because of it.

The other thing to keep in mind is friends come and go so you don't want to kick yourself further down the line that you didn't act on your feelings.  best advice is to prepare yourself for both outcomes first!!

Good luck!

Answer 2

i think you should tell her. what do you have to lose? if she's a true friend she will always be there for you and her feelings about the friendship will not change. if she gets weird about it then that means she was never really a true friend and it never would have worked out.

Answer 3

I got the exact same problem the only different thing is I'm a girl and your a boy.. Here's what I do.. Text message my friend and tell him that I like him then if she say that he like you back then congratulations but if she said no then just tell her it was a joke or one of your friend whose messing up with you

Answer 4

you're a boy right? well first of all you should suss out whether she has a guy or not then go from there

Answer 5

Better swoop fast, do everything you can, go against every bad thought you have and ask her out, if this guy gets to her first, you are going to be depressed for a very long time.

Go for her, tell her how you feel, ask her out, before this guy gets his claws in.

Answer 6

Just inform her that you are going to be engaged and see her response.  You can also ask her about her new found boy directly in a friendly manner.. First find out her mind and then tell her your love