Should I confront her? Bi-relationship.?

Question

Okay..so I am bi. And dating this girl. We have dated two other times before this. The first time we dated we broke up, because of this girl (Orion) that she told a long time ago that they could date in the Summer. So she broke up with me for Orion. Then they broke up, because Orion decided she was streight. So we dated again and broke up over another girl but it was my fault not hers. Then we got back together, and we are trying to stay together for a really long time. Instead of breaking up when we have somthing on our minds we just fight..

So last night my girlfriend was like, "So guess who's talking to me again?"

And I was like, "Who?"

And she's like, "Orion."

And I was like, "Oh, cool."

And she said, "Yeah, I am going to her house sometime next week."

I was sort of bothered by that but I let it go. Then I remembered that I asked her to come over next week and she's like I don't think I can, but now she is going to Orions. So I was really bothered, but I didn't say anything. Then later I was in a bad mood towards her, because I didn't think that was right..But I hate confrontation, so I didn't say anything. Then she started crying, and said, "It feels like you are going to leave me. Why are you being like this?"

And I didn't say anything, so she stopped crying and said, "I just want you to believe me when I say I love you, then say it back with meaning and not hesitation."

Then I started balling and threw the phone away to my friend. My friend told her I would call her back.

After I got myself together I called her back and she's like, "Okay, tell me what I did."

So I did...and she told me she only wants me and she hates being used and would never go back to someone that used her. I believed her...

Then later she told me to check something on her myspace for her and I was curious about Orion so I went to her page...I noticed a comment on Orion's myspace that said she missed her and stuff..

And my girlfriend had deleted all the comments she got from Orion, because she knew I would look.

I don't know if I should be mad..and if I should be I don't know how to confront her, because that would include mentioning I read Orion's comments from her account..

Advice??

Answer 1

well, from what I understand, maybe your gf is thinking about what she wants, or maybe she really is just friends with this other girl and doesn't want you to flip out when you look at her page. But, I totally understand how it feels to feel insecure in a relationship, it was a big problem between me and my ex- bf. Hopefully, things come to light and you work it out.

Answer 2

thank God im bi and 26 i couldnt handle the young drama anymore.  

Answer 3

Communication,communication & more communication. Actually I should have stressed Honest communication. Discuss all the good things & all the bad ones. Don't try to keep the fact that you checked Orion's myspace from her. She probably expected that you would check it anyway.

Answer 4

I don't believe there's anything to confront your girlfriend about. You say she told you to check her Myspace page, so it's not as if you were spying; you went there with her knowledge and permission. Clearly, this girlfriend wanted you to see something she'd done there but didn't want to be adult enough to tell you to your face.

Open communications are key in any relationship. Sounds like this girlfriend is manipulating you into doing the dirty work of trying to be open and honest about your relationship. Right now, it seems there are three in the relationship: you, your girlfriend, and this Orion. A healthy romantic relationship can have only two people involved. Nothing to say this Orion can't be your girlfriend's friend, though. You can't control who her friends are.

Overall, I'd just try to live in the present, enjoy the time you two have together. If your girlfriend decides to go back to this Orion or cheats on you with her, there's not a lot you can do to prevent it. From my experience, people who break up and then make up and break up like the drama of winning you back.  You and only you can decide if you want to play these games and if it's worth your time to do so.