Should I confront my roomate for not trusting me.?

Question

I've been living with my room mate since the begining of this year but lately I get the feeling she doesnt trust me anymore. A lot of her friends come over to help themselves to her stuff when shes not around and I'm guessing some of her things went missing.

However she hasnt asked me about any of her missing things, instead, I've noticed that she talks about me behind my back, telling some of her other friends that I'm stealing from her, (I just know she is)

Most recently she locked her cupboard (which she never does) when she went to visit her boyfriend for the weekend. Now clearly she does not trust me. I dont wan2 live with someone who thinks I'mma thief. Should I confront her, keep quiet about it or just pack my things????????

Answer 1

Ask her about it if its causing an atmosphere you'll feel better for getting it off your chest.

Answer 2

I would confront her first because if you just pack your things and leave, you are always going to wonder if she thinks you are a thief or not.  Get it off your chest, see what she has to say, and then take it from there, but I know I couldn't live with someone who didn't trust me.  Life is too short.  Good Luck.

Answer 3

contront her. you are doing nothing wrong and just tell her whats what. look her straight in the eye and tell her its bs, that you are not the one she needs to worry about and start naming names of who you know has taken from her, IF you know. and let HER move if she don't like it.  

Answer 4

I would definetly confront her. I mean who does she think she is? I hate when ppl talk behind your back!! I bet you she is probably spredding all kinds of nasty rumors about you (those kind of ppl allways do!!) You gotta tell her that you not going to take it anymore and if she got attitude just slap a lil that will help.

Answer 5

I would confront her.Why would you leave with her believing you are a thief? I would sit down with her and let her know that you are not the one taking her things. Her other friends are letting you take the blame. If she continues to feel you are the one taking her things then I would move and she will find out that things are still being taken after you are gone. I would not move out till she knows that you are not a thief.