Should I contact him again? What do I say?

Question

My son's father walked out on us when my son was 3 days old. He pays child support every month regularly, but chooses to not have any contact with his son. He hasn't seen him since he walked out on us, of his own choosing. He also keeps health insurance on him. Anyway, I have moved on and am married to a wonderful man now. My son's dad told me that if I ever needed anything concerning his son to let him know, and every year he sends me his new insurance card. The last time he tried to send me the insurance card though, he sent it certified mail, and since there's nobody home when the mail runs and I don't get home from work until after the post office closes, they sent it back. I had to call him and ask him to send me the insurance card just regular mail, so that I wouldn't have to sign for it. Anyway, I have lost my son's insurance card several times (I know-irresponsible) and the last time I called him he told me not to call him again for another insurance card because he didn't have one, and he sent me his card. Well, guess what, I've lost my son's insurance card again (long story) and I'm scared to contact him to ask for another card, even though I need it. The insurance company won't deal with me at all because I'm not on the card. What do I do? I need the insurance card, but what do I tell him when I call him?

Answer 1

It sounds like you need to be more responsible.  Even though for some reason he chooses not to be in his sons life, it sounds like he does support you in caring for him.  I'd contact him and see if he would have the insurance company send another card, apologize for the inconvenience and get a better way to keep up with it.  You are lucky that he does as much as he does, my ex never kept insurance, paid support or even stayed at a job long enough to do anything for our daughters.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First of all: from now on you need to have a safe place marked off for these cards you keep losing. It's not good to have to continue asking for something you've lost. Second: I think it would be okay to ask again and tell him: I'm very sorry I misplaced it & I know its irresponsible. If you send it again I won't loose it because i'm starting to file these [or something like filing]. If he starts going off on how he can't give it to you or something that would lead to a no; haha; just tell him you'd get one yourself but the insurance company won't deal with you. Another thing i'd think about doing would be GETTING on the card. Haha now i feel bad because that was harsh for me but I hope I could help :]