Should I contact my baby daddy?

Question

Im going to court in three weeks with my baby daddy for child support. I havent talk to him since my little girl was born. I had asked him if he wanted to see her and he said no because he didnt believe she was his. The test results came back and it is his - DUH, yet he hasnt called, its been since April of this year. We are going to court and i am going to see him for the first time in months. So I am wondering once the child support court date is resolve should I contact him one more time to see if he wants to meet his little girl? A large part I am thinking of doing this is becuase if he dosent want to be a part of her life at least I can tell I her I tried....

Answer 1

No, I would not contact him. He knows that she is his daughter and he has not made a move to come see her yet, so that is his bad. Its his lost not hers or yours. If he is being that big of a jerk she is better of without him. Just collect your child support, honey.

Answer 2

I think it is important to leave it open to him. Ask him again if he wants to be involved or see her, and then even if he again says no, make sure to let him know that if he changes his mind in the future then he can still see her. I think its imortant to remember that seeing your daughter wont be of benefit to you or the father, it will be your daughter who benefits from having her father in her life. So just try to keep it open and welcome so that one day when he can see sense, then your daughter wont have to miss out.  

Answer 3

You might try to contact him but I would talk with the child support attorney first and make sure it didn't mess up the child support hearing.  You never know how devious daddy might be in trying to keep from paying.  Ask the attorney first.

Answer 4

it is his daughter but he will finally figure out when she is older that he was a fool missing out on his daughters life. if he wants to see her he will.

Answer 5

Send him a picture of her and a letter telling him about the cute things she does, her first word, etc. Send the same thing to his mother and father. The more you can make him see her as his daughter and not just some baby it should help.  In the letter use her name not just your daughter or the baby.