Should I contact my old 'boyfriend' even though we're both happily involved with other people?

Question

I've been in a relationship now for more than two years...I've had several past relationships that, when ended, no matter whose feelings were hurt, I've gotten over them all-no matter how badly hurt I was. So here's my problem...there has always been this one guy that I never got over...I am happy in my current relationship...good s*x, good communication, etc...So, why can't I stop thinking about him?? We were not together so long and though we were intimate, the words 'i love you' were never spoken....but not because I didn't feel that way. I found him on Myspace the other day...should I contact him just to catch up and see how he's been?? We knew each other for a few years and I don't think it would be considered cheating....I see he's in a relationship as well...pls help!!

Answer 1

NO NO NO...If you in a happy relationship & you know he is also, why would you even consider contacting him...You'd be doing nothing but taking the chance of hurting two innocent people.  Think about it.  Would you honestly want that done against you?  Then you have no rite to get involved in someone else's life.  A good rule of thumb I've always tried to go by is "when in doubt don't".  You've removed him from your life, what business is it of yours to "catch up"..Catch up on what!  Leave well enuf alone & don't even take the chance of hurting anyone...Trust you'll make the rite choice for all involved...:)

Answer 2

I do not need to read past the main question, so I won't!

If you were happy! You would not ask this Question!

Go spend some more time with your "current" or leave them.

Do you know what happy means in a relationship?

Glad I never met you!

Answer 3

well...think about it, think if you would get mad if you found out your current bf talked to one of his ex's? if you would get mad, then i say dont. if you wouldnt..then go ahead...but guys usually dont see eye to eye on that stuff.

Answer 4

  Ok I don't know if I'm going to make any sense but heres what I think...

   Maybe the reason why you can't stop thinking about your ex is because the words "I Love You " were never said. It sound to me that you felt that way for him.The fact that those three words were never said to each other was because he never said it first.So its almost like build up feeling/emotions that you never express and maybe you wonder why he never said those words to you if you felt it and it was a good relationship.

   I don't think that you should contact him, just leave it alone and be happy with your current relationship. Let him be. Then again you said that you "found"  him on myspace.Were you looking for him,because I believe you were.If you took the time to look him on myspace  I'm sure you're going to go with your feelings and not with anyone says here.

   Good luck with your choice.I wish you the best.

Answer 5

Well i say go ahead and talk to him.   I think it would definitely not count as cheating if you just talked....  but maybe you should ask your current boyfriend if he would be ok if you two just talked then if he says yes go ahead. if he says no... my advice would be to respect that and to leave it be.... hope this helps....

Answer 6

i think you should add him. its sad for you current bf but sounds like your ex is your true love.

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Answer 7

dont contact him it will just cause problems