Should I continue my relationship with my bisexual boyfriend?

Question

Hi I have been in a relationship with a guy for 6 years we are high school sweethearts we met when we were 15 we are now 21. I found out he was bisexual i seen emails he sent to people on the internet. Trying to hook up with them. He told me the whole story about himself and he says he has not been involved a man. and that g*y is engaging in same s*x. He says he know what he want in life and thats me. I really love him. And I know he love me. Is it possible to have a successful relationship and marriage with someone that bisexual.

Answer 1

I myself would find it discusting to be with a man who has been with another man.  Very unhealthy and unclean to say the least.  If you love him and he loves you, he shouldn't have desires for others.

Answer 2

Well, I know I will get thumbs down for this, but I have a hard time believing your story, simply because you say that you are both 21 year olds, and yet your typing skills are atrocious, and that of a teen or p*****n. If, in fact, you are 21, then here is my advice: if you are wanting a monogamous relationship with this guy, there is just no way. He professes himself to be bi, so that gives him a "get out of jail free" cards. Whenever he is unfaithful to you, his excuse will be that he told you that he was bi and that you should understand. I would leave him and find someone who is not bi.

Answer 3

It would be wise to end this relationship now.  He will only cause you sorrow.  And now that family and friends know, they will think you are mental for staying with him.  And they would be right.  No one deserves problems like his. Wants and women and then he wants a man.  Come on. He's confused and disturbed.

Answer 4

I think your boyfriend just asked us how to get you to stay with him like 5 minutes ago. lol.

DUH stay with him. If there is love then nothing can break you.

Answer 5

only if he doesn't have s*x with guys..

Answer 6

i think yes if u really luv him like that along as nobody find out about his confused situation.

Answer 7

As hard as it is; it sounds like you should move on. Yes, he probably does love you and you love him. However, that does not mean that he will not perhaps try to explore that other side of himself, his sexuality. If you're ok and prepared for that- ( a non monogamous relationship) then fine. However , if you want committment from him and he is contacting other men to "hook up" with- then don't expect it . As much as you love him, think about your goals and dreams; put them first. Dont believe that he will put you first if he's already hooking up with other guys through emails. That's far from commitment;

Good luck and I pray you make the choice that benefits you best.  

Answer 8

" Is it possible to have a successful relationship and marriage with someone that bisexual...."

Yes, it is possible.

I am bisexual, and am in a monogamous relationship.

However, you are still young, and should consider expanding your own horizons, as it seems your BF has. You may not be bisexual, but the persons involved in a straight-with-bisexual-relationship have their own set of issues (not necessarily bad), that they have to contend with.

I believe it is not a question of whether or not your partner is bisexual, but the question of," What are the parameters of this relationship, with regard to monogamy vs. "open".

I believe there are trust issues involved, which are incidental to either your own or his sexuality.  

Much Love & Luck to You,

~SKY

Answer 9

if u love him...stay with him

Answer 10

Being a bi-sexual doesn't necessarily mean that  a person is going to sleep around.  If he has been honest and told you about himself, that is a really positive thing.  However you clearly have questions and doubts, as you wouldn't be posting this and reading his emails!  Be careful about drawing too many conclusions from this and the answers you may get on here.  At the end of the day a relationship revolves around trust and mutual respect.  Be fair to him, if he has given you no cause to be jealous, then don't assume the worst.

Answer 11

Only continue if he is willing and able to be monogamous.

Answer 12

i have bi boyfriend and his amazing!

and to me it seems like ur ashamed of him... why?

im not ashamed of mine, i love him even more.

Answer 13

if you love him, then stay with him. sorry if that's too simple.