Should I continue the maid or Day care ?

Question

Hello Friends,

My son is 2 years old...till this time we had a maid who used to look after him while i was off to work...

But now We have started to send him to a day care ...but since that he is very much disturbed.

He wakes up in middle of the night saying "Dont want to go to day care"..Not ready to get dressed in the morning to go to day care..

When i pick him in the evening He does not want to go home...If i force him Cries a lot...

Day care madam also says that he does not mis up with the kids that easliy..many a times they have to force him to particiapate in their activities like singing and danchig..

Is it causing any psychological effect..Shud i continue with the day care...? or switch back to the maid?

Answer 1

Hmm...I would stay and observe your son when you drop him off at his childcare. At 2 years of age separation anxiety happens to most 2 years old. They want to be with mommy or daddy, change is difficult for them at this age. However being in a childcare is the best thing for your son it will teach him to socialize, respect other people, learn rules, basically it will introduce him to kindergarten. Maybe this childcare is not the right one for your son, if not try a different one. How do you feel about the childcare? Sometimes the best thing to do is go with your gut instinct.

Another thing is check into a co-op preschool than your maid will be abe to interact with your son by bringing him and staying with him.

Good luck and remember it's about your son, so do the right thing for him.

Hugs

Answer 2

It sounds like he's not ready for daycare-

why not give him another 6-12 months with the maid/nanny, and then try again?

Let him know that he'll be going back to daycare, talk it up, have the maid work with him  getting ready, too.

At two years old he is quite attached to his caregiver, and not yet emotionally ready to venture out. That's okay, it's his personality and his comfort zone.  

Answer 3

Well, your son needs YOU!!

Answer 4

My son has been with an at home mother who home schools her 4 kids. He has been with her since day 1. I tried to switch him to someone closer to my home and job when he was 2 and it really put him through a lot of stress. At first I thought it should be good for him to try and get used to another caretaker but, he was suffering emotionally and socially just after a few days! I took him back to her, not because he had asked me to (because he didn't), but because I knew that an environment that he is comfortable with, is one he will develop the best with. I'm not worried that he won't be able to adapt to the public schools, because kids are able to adapt pretty well as they get older...at least that was the case with my other 2 teenagers. I believe if you make him happy and comfortable where he is before he goes into school, the quicker he'll learn what he needs before he starts.

By the way, we took him to get evaluated to see what scale he rates -developmentally, and he is advanced in all aspects. Looks like it's working just fine!

Answer 5

He may just not really be ready for day care.  If you can afford it, switch him back to what worked well before with the same lady.

Answer 6

your son is suffering for a mistake you have made. you should have put him in a day care center at one year of age or even younger. seperation anxiety begins at 6-7 months so if the child is put in a day care center before this age he doesnt need to adjust at all.. he straightaway starts enjoying the new atmoshere.

you will have to work in coordination with his teachers/caretakers at the day care center to remove his anxiety and help him adjust to it. dont give him back to the maid at home -better late than never. if u do... it will be worse when he has to go to the kindergarten. then u cant keep him back with the maid right??? he has to go to school. let him get used to this routine-u go to work he goes to day care-no options.. he has to accept it and u have to help him to do it. u need patience and dont act angrily.