Should I continue to fight for Mother's rights?

Question

Two years ago I lost custody of my child. I have been trying to regain custody. I financially ruined myself hiring attorney's and getting no where. I am starting over financially but still have not been able to see my child. I have another child that is also not able to see his sibling. My ex is a very bitter man. Its been two years and I feel my child has forgotten about me. Should I just give up trying to regain custody and wait until my child is old enough to come back to me?

Answer 1

Custody of a child is different than visitation rights.  It sounds like you (and your other child) don't have visitation rights or don't use your visitation rights.  Try and get visitation rights from the court before you try to gain custody.  Your ex-husband would have to abide by a court's ruling granting you visitation (possibly supervised) rights or he'd be in trouble with the courts.

Answer 2

As a mother myself no court in their right mind would ever take children away from there mother, unless for a good reason you must of screwed up big time for a judge to give custody to the father. You must be leaving something out.

Answer 3

If you "give up", your kid might get the wrong idea.  Depending on how old they are right now, they might grow up thinking you were O.K. with losing them, and that you never tried to get them back.

If you simply stop trying and wait until your child is old enough to come back, they might not want to.

It's very unlikely that your child has forgotten about you!  Everyone loves their Mom, no matter what.  If you feel it will be a long time before you can have your parental rights back, at least try to keep in contact with your child so they do not begin to think YOU forgot about THEM.  Phone calls might not be the best.  Emails are slightly impersonal.  Why not write letters back and forth (of course, depending on the age of your kid?)  Even if your kid isn't old enough, and this means he holds onto the letters for a while until he can read them, understand and write back-- at least he'll know you haven't forgotten about him.  You could even just send cute "thinking of you" cards.

I understand constantly trying to gain custody is likely very tiring and as you said financially rough.  Rather than just dropping out of the picture all together, it's very important you keep in contact with your children, even if you cannot financially afford to gain custody right now.  Do not let them think you forgot about them.