My mother in law looked after my son for 4 days a week initially which I reduced after some time to two days a week. I reduced the days because I felt very undermined by her during an incident where I came to pick him up early having told her I was taking him swimming. I turned up to find he was asleep (she'd put him down for a late sleep!). It wasn't this incident in isolation of course, there was a build up to this point.
But basically I began to feel as though 'she' felt she had more say, or felt 'more' important in my sons life. I also began to feel uncomfortable with the feeling of having to compete for my sons focus and attention when we were all together. I would notice looks of disappointment when he came to hug me etc.
I now have a daughter who is three months and will have to return to work. She has already made comments about being a stranger to my little girl....and says things like 'I havent seen you for ages !' to my son, yet she sees him (on his own) once a week.
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