Should I cut my 7 year old's LONG hair? Do you think I should let her decide,or should I just do it?

Question

She fusses every time I brush it, It is down to her thigh.. She doesn't want to cut it, but she also doesn't want me to brush or braid or style it.. It always tangles up horribly, no matter what product we use, and we have tried many. Seems like a no-win situation. Just curious as to what you would do in that situation..

Answer 1

I would tell her it needs to be cut a little...then cut it about to boob length..or a little longer. I hope this helped.

-Tara

Answer 2

I say you sit down with her, and check out some shorter hairstyle pictures on photobucket.

Or go to a salon, and ask them for a catalog. get something juts abit shorter, like to her waist, maybe she wants a fringe/bangs?

How about layers? they look pretty :)

Don't force her into it, I beg you. When I was 8, my hair was nearly to my knees (my mum cared for my hair really well). When she went USA, he forced me (like, really held me down and cutted it) to cut it to my ears. I looked like a adult, male lion who just got electric shock...

:)

Answer 3

Be careful. My Mum had her lovely long locks hacked off by her mother when she was a little girl. It was very short, she kept being mistaken for a boy, and it really upset her.

Try and let your daughter decide. If she continued to fuss, discuss it with her. You could at least reach a compromise. But don't give her absolutely no warning, she'll be crushed.

Answer 4

u may want 2 donate it. its down 2 her thigh! thats insanly long! and cutting it all off would b silly. donate it 2 locks of love and cut it up 2 her shoulders. thats a more reasonable length

Answer 5

don't cut her hair.hair is so important to young girls.buy hair one of these barbie dolls that have a special braiding device.soon,she will want to style her hair like her favourite doll.

Answer 6

Normally I'd say, let her chose, but it's getting messed up and knotted and tangled, so talk to her about it.

Find a style that's not too short, but short enough. Maybe a little bit past her shoulders. But if she doesn't want to, say: "If you keep your long, hair I'm going to have to braid or style it everyday." Then let her decide.

If you go through with cutting her hair, her hair is probably long enough to donate to Locks of Love. My wife did this and two of my daughters did as well. Here is the website:

http://www.locksoflove.org/

That way your daughter isn't just getting a trim, she's helping a young girl with cancer!

Answer 7

cut it short but to the middle of her back

it'll be easier

Answer 8

Hello

My 6 year old daughter has the same hair. It must be thick. Every morning before school I brushed it but then I got fed up and cut it to her shoulders. Now its easier to comb and prettier.

Answer 9

You should ask her first, if she agrees, go ahead. If she doesn't, try to convince her to cause if it's too long, it's just a hassle.

Answer 10

Normally I would say shes old enough to decided,but since it's knotting up I would cut it.

Answer 11

Hey, when I was younger my mom cut my really long hair because I would never brush it or let her touch it- I had a really sensitive head and it hurt really bad.  I was mad when she cut it , but then I realised it was better than having tangled hair, I think you should cut it.

Answer 12

I just went through this with my 7 year old like last week or so.  It would take me 20 mins to brush her hair between all the screaming and fussing.  And after that it looked like it still wasn't brushed.  Here is what I did.  I picked a hairstyle that I liked and for like the next few days everyone I saw with that style I told her how cute it would look on her and that I bet it doesn't get as many tangles and it was probably easy to brush.  After a day or so she decided she liked it and asked me to take her to get it cut like that.  She absolutely loves her new do and she even likes to brush it herself now.  I still have to tell her to let me "see how good she did" and brush a few little tangles out.  

The style we chose was a bit longer version of Victoria Beckhams and Rhiannas little bob.  Shorter in the back and longer in the front.  It looks really cute and is the in thing right now.

Good luck!

Answer 13

sit down with your daughter and ask her if she would like to help kids less fortunate than her. if she says yes, go get her hair cut at a local salon and donate the cut hair to a place like locks of love that gathers donated hair to make wigs for kids who are dealing with the loss of their hair from the side effects of their cancer treatments

Answer 14

My mother never cut our hair...both my sister and I had hair down to our knees (no cuts till we were around 12)...

But we used Johnsons and Johnsons no more tears after bath time to detangle it...and then it was usually in braids...and it was DEFINATELY in braids at night time.

Tell her she can choose...either she gets detangled and braided....or she gets a haircut...it's up to her.

I wouldn't cut it if I were you...but that's just me.

Answer 15

At this point I would cut it, not short but shorter.

Answer 16

If she doesn't want it cut, you could make a day of it- go to a hairdressers and have it trimmed, that's not too expensive and she'll be less likely to make a fuss there, then you can go to a cafe for lunch, and maybe get some new jeans for her new hair?

Answer 17

i think that you should tell her straight (but in friendly matter) that she basically has two choices

1. She lets you brush it and help you

2. You can get it cut

Her choice

Oh i also think that since she is 7 that instead of just doing her yourself let her help brush when you have time and have her decide how she wants her hair to look as long as you agree

hopes this helps!

Answer 18

Down to her thighs?  Yes it's time for a cut.  At that length it probably just looks stringy anyway.  I would say cut it juse below the shoulders and put in long layers,  that should help with the tangling.

You are the parent...especially at 7, you need to make the desicion to cut her hair or not.  

You can make it fun though. Get some magazines and show her some really pretty shorter cuts and make a fun girl day out of it at the salon.  Maybe buy her some new barettes or cute pony tail holders....That way she won't be so upset over it.

Answer 19

she does not want u to brush it or style it im guessing she wont do it her self tell her she either lets u or does it herself WITHOUT fussing or u will cut it

Answer 20

Please don't cut it unless she agrees.

When I was 7 both my sister and I had long long hair and brushing was an ordeal for my mother. We didn't want our hair cut, but my dad cut it anyways. It was a horrible day, full of crying and tears and anger.

Hair is really something that becomes part of you. Forcing  someone to cut there hair is a little bit of an attack, in my opinion.

Talk to her-- she is old enough to understand the concept of choice. Either let her choose a shorter style and make it an exciting/fun event to get it cut, or let her choose to let you brush it (using johnson's detanglers or extra conditioner) and style it with as little fush as possible.

Good luck!

Answer 21

We just decided how to deal with this at my house too! My granddaughter had hair below her bottom, curly, wavy, messy but beautiful. Everyone in the world would comment how lovely it was but NO one would come over in the morning and help fix it. Or come at night when it had to be washed, then combed and braided before bed. If it wasn't loosely braided at night before bed it would be a HUGE knot in the morning. A huge 12 to 14 inches of knotted hair with a crying child at the other end. It hurts so of course she cried. Even unbraiding it in the morning hurt. She could rarely wear it down to school because it got in the way, plus its so hot.

J was really nervous about cutting her hair and really afraid she'd hate it afterward. We had known people who donated to Locks of Love and its an amazing group. They take human hair and make wigs for kids with cancer so they look and feel more normal. Just having hair when your ill can improve your outlook a lot.

So we braided it and went to the beauty shop ad had it cut and styled.She was able to have a good 12 to 13 inch braid removed to donate and still have her hair just below her shoulders. I was watching J's face when it was removed and the most amazing thing happened. The look on her face was not one or regret or sadness but a look of relief ! I was shocked. I think having dealt with all the fighting over having it combed and washed had just made her miserable. You don't realize how it effects the kids. At least we didn't. She grinned from ear to ear as her hair was finished and it looked as if a weight had been removed from her shoulders. Litterly I guess. Plus she was so proud that she could give a gift of love to some one who really needed it.

Think about this. It was a real eye opener for me. Good luck !

Answer 22

I think you should tell her straight off (but not tactlessly) that she is strongly recommended to cut her hair. 7-year olds are starting to follow trends and are easily impressionable, so try showing a favourite celebrity of hers that has shorter hair, and coo over how pretty your daughter would be if she had that hair, and how all the girls would be jealous. Say that she would make lots of friends, as first friends are often made in that age period.

Answer 23

I had the same problem. I talked my 10 year old into cutting her hair and giving hers to LOCKS OF LOVE. It helped me, her , and hopefully someone out there who isn't fortunate enough to have long hair right now.

Answer 24

give her a choice cut it or learn to brush it her self if she chooses to brush her self give her a week or so on doingit if she can get her a book with hair cuts in it and tell her to pick what she likes then donate to locks of love 2925 10th avenue n str 152  lakeworth florida 33461   at least 9 in  my 7 yr old did