Should I deny this proposal?

Question

My boyfriend and I are waiting to have s*x until we are married. Tonight, we had a long talk about s*x. I said that I'm excited and he told me that he has no desire to have s*x at all. When we were kissing today, he didn't even get turned on when he imagined how s*x would be when we are married. He said he would be content being a virgin for the rest of his life. I'm really starting to worry about marrying him. I don't want to marry someone that doesn't want to have s*x...I think it brings a couple closer. He said he's kind of excited at the moment...but he will be so hesistant when he's in the moment.

He said this: "like its easy for me to think about in advance, but when i'm in a situation like that, i'm totally turned off to it"

I'm really starting to think about not marrying him. This is totally disappointing because I love him and he's the man of my dreams..what do you guys think about this? I know it may be nerves but...once I'm married, I'm stuck. Is this a warning sign that he's not ready for marriage? I'm his first girlfriend ever.

Answer 1

I was like that before. I wanted to save myself. I got tricked into it somewhat. Now I'm a freak who strives on it lol.

Anyway, s*x does matter but not as much as you'd think. It relieves stress, and tension. Makes you and your partner closer and more sensual of each other. Don't forget it feels freaking awesome.

No one can really tell you weather or not your ready to say "yes". Thats your own choice.

If you really are curious about him. Give him a test run. Otherwords, get intimate once or twice. Or Experiment with touches and feelings.

Answer 2

To some people s*x is a chore and they do it because they have to. An elderly lady I knew told me about the time and how she didn't want to with her own husband and couldn't wait for it to be over. This guy sounds the same. It depends on if you could live with that.  

Answer 3

You should just stick with him. Love is the most important part in marriage, not having s*x.

Answer 4

mmh please dont mind him his not normal

Answer 5

as early as possible, try to weigh things before it is too late..

i have been married for three weeks now, and i tell you, s*x really is a part of married life.. it is God's given gift for married couples.

try to assess your boyfriend, is he really a straight man or somewhat Gayish...

Rush.. Decide before he propose..

Answer 6

Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship!

You don't want to spend your life feeling rejected - he also sounds like he might be g*y.

Move on.

Answer 7

Sounds like he could be g*y and it's not that he's not excited to have s*x, it's just he's not excited to have s*x with a woman.

Answer 8

Are you seriously asking the people on yahoo answers for advice on such a life-changing decision?!?

Answer 9

Oh sweetie, he sounds asexual or g*y. I am sorry, but s*x is a big part of a marriage and even if he wants to wait, usually men's bodies respond. He probably isn't the man of your dreams...I am sorry.

Answer 10

dear missy.  there could be a lot of reasons why he does not want to ever have s*x with you.  I could only imagine how heart-broken you must feel.  Believe me, a young man and a young woman usually want s*x.  It is healthy.  But, before you get married, you must understand this better.  It is possible he is a closeted homosexual, you know.  The first thing I would do is have a good cry.  Then I would have a serious talk with him, and then go talk with your preacher with him present, and get to the bottom of this.  Better do this before you say "I do" rather than when it is too late.

Answer 11

is he religious and denying that he's g*y because his religion is homophobic?

Answer 12

personally, i would deny it.   wouldnt make me love him less.  just wouldnt marry him.  

Answer 13

I knew a guy that was the same way.

Well this guy now is living with his "husband" life partner.

And they have s*x alot.