Should I ditch my bestfriend or stay by her side?(plz read, i know its long but i need advice.?)?

Question

My bestfriend and i have been friends for about 5 years. We're both 13 years old and our b-days are 4 days apart.We've been through everything together but its obvious that we're slowly growing apart. Now we're going into high school in about a week but we're goin to two different schools. Her sister has warned us that chances are that we wont be bestfriends. I've alwaysed noticed that she basically has a better life-style than i do. I guess you can say im jealous of her. Everything she has I want.In my own opinion my life compared to hers is garbage. She has the sister i alwaysed wanted but mine died when i was 6 years old. Our sisters would have been the same age so when i see my best friends sister getting her drivers license and goin off to college it makes me sad bcuz i think about how that woulda been my sister. My bestfriend also has a semi famous dad that once played in the nba and is now rich and lives in a beautiful house. While my dad is a full time assistant and a part time janitor. She's absoulotly gorgeous with light bronzy clear skin and straight teeth while im.....the exact opposite. She visits her family often and are really close to them while i only see a couple of my aunts every year or so. She's wealthy while my parents struggle to get the bills paid every month. She does everything i would dream of doing( going to concerts, vacationing in puerto rico, meeting celebs.etc.) Its like she lives the perfect life. So getting to the point, everytime i hang out with her i notice that i compare myself to her...ALOT. Then i look back at myself and my life and my self esteem goes way down but with my other friends i feel more comfortable. It seems like we're all the same but the moment i get with my best friend i feel like c**p. So should i stop hanging out with her? Afterall we probably will drift apart because we're going into different high schools. Or should I stick by her side til the end? Someone help. I love my bestfriend to death but i also want to be happy about my self instead of comparing my life to hers constantly.

Answer 1

You are at a turning point!  Freshman year changes a lot of friendships.  Do not envy her.  Be proud of who you are.  I too struggle to support my kids, but they see that and it makes them work even harder to better themselves.  Do not cut the relationship let it take it course.  But do expect to drift apart...you may be sad but it is a phase in life you will go through.  It is possible that you will find a new "best friend" in high school.  Enjoy yourself, before you know it it will be over!

Answer 2

hmmm

i think you should be honest with her and decide together!

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Answer 3

It is not good to be jealous of anyone. You be proud of your parents. They work hard to give you a life. Maybe, you need to learn that you make your own happiness with what life offers you. Keep in touch with her through E-mails, and phone calls. Support her, for she is having to meet new people. Learn to love other people.

Answer 4

save your chick flicks for myspace.

Answer 5

sweety you are your own worst enemy belive.. me you are just making upt excuses.. if your relationship with her was so strong you wouldnt be questioning it here... best friends do not exist people change and drift apart thats how life is.. now if you feel like c**p b/c u are jealous of her than thats not HER problem i am guessing that welthy friend of yours might be real lonely to hang out with someone as "poor" as you describe yourself... money cant buy love and there is a reason why she likes hanging out with you that u cant see cus u always get overwhelemed for what she has and what you have not... thing is you shud just accept how you are live your life with your "friend of the same leve" but if you are going to be biatching about how miserable you are comparing to your rich frend than you shud do something about it... enjoy it with her.. if u cant beat them join them.. how come she never invites you to HEr life.. maybe you can teach each other a thing or two... u shud travel with her show with her be a friend... and stop comparing yourself... b/c its not her that compares you to her but its yourself...  

Answer 6

Well, based on what you've described bout you best friend.. I guess it's the feeling of inferior. I wouldn't advice to stop hanging out as you've loved your best friend to death. No one is perfect. What you're seeing on her might not be the actual fact.

Anyway, since you know the chances are you won't be best friends after you guys get to high school. Why not appreciate this friendship given to you? Try not to compare so much with her and I believe you'll feel better that way. Mix around and have some more new friends. Think of those who are less fortunate rather than comparing to those who are wealthy. You are consider as a lucky person my dear!

CHEER UP!!! :)

Answer 7

this is about the same exact situtation that happened to me and my best friend. you wont be as close as you were. and you will gradually stop talking to each other everyday. you will still be there for her when ever she needs you and vice versa, but the sad part is that everything is totally different.

Answer 8

sound like you envious. you don't wann loose a BFF ove that friends are waaaaaaaaaay to hard ot come by. I mean real ones. if your really bothered talk to her and express your feelings. she should be more than willing to listen and understand. jealousy gets you no where but alone. you should really take a long look at yourself and not her......... YOU HAVE TOU LOVE YOURSELF B4 YOU CAN LOVE ANYONE.....

Answer 9

Well, if you did it would be because of your jealousy.  But honestly, look at it from her point of view.  Maybe she doesn't care about her wealth and cares about you.  Maybe you have qualities that you have and she wished she had.  Honestly, being a friend is trying to understand and sacrifice, so that you can remain friends.  (I guess that is why friends make or break you)

Answer 10

You are 13.

You've got your whole life ahead of you.

Of course you two will most certainly drift apart especially if you both go to different highschools.

I certainly don't have the same friends i had when i was in primary school.

Goodluck. You'll find a new best friend some day :)

Answer 11

Talk to her about it.  I felt the same way-- my friend and I drifting apart.  I told her some things I probably shouldn't've (being completely honest with her, though; it was just something she didn't agree with that I was) but now we're all good (keep in mind, I moved away from her years ago, so distance and schools doesn't always make or break a relationship).  There's nothing more you can do than talk to her about it.  Maybe ask her to take you along places?  I mean that's what friends are for-- to talk to, to have fun with, to go places with, to have memories with.

Really, good luck with everything.  

Answer 12

you kindof answered your question yourself...I think once you go to seperate schools the separation will happen on its own..so sit back and see if she makes any effort to keep the friendship going...I had a friend who always seemed to have it all...looks money etc...and I was always the one walking behind her...people would come up to me years later and say..hows xxxxxxxx? and I would be like how am I? can you ask how I am first?? jeez...so anyway...go on with your life..fix your hair...good. fix your makeup good...and be friendly with everyone...even the little people...get good grades and move on to be someone!!   READ  Desiderata..its great

Answer 13

well i still have my best friend since grade 3. I mean you don't assume a persons life is perfect, everyonehas their share of issues. True friends work it out to the end, they have their ups and downs but I mean they are going to be there for youin the end. Talk to her..keep in mind its not her fault

Answer 14

honestly, i agee with coolkid, a little melodramatic.  get over yourself

Answer 15

ok iv had s S****y life iv move like 60 times and im 19 so heres my advice dont be like that comparing. what the point. she got it good you got it bad get over it. the only thing you can do is. try to improve you life if you dont like it as for the best friend ting i had more friend than you and count iv bin to 21 schools. and iv lerned that if there really your friend they will want to be your friend no matter what if it goes sour  that thats what happend just exept it and move on no sence in dewilling there plenty of people to go around the earth 4 times

Answer 16

aww im sry about ur sis :(. keep in mind that it's not her fault that you compare yourself to her. she just lives the only way she knows how. maybe if you invite her to do more things with you, then she will invite you to do the things with her that you've always wanted to do. the closer you are, the more things you'll probably get to do. but don't base your friendship off of things. it's really about the people. if you like the kind of person she is, then stay friends with her!

Answer 17

Wow. Well I can sorta relate to your story, my best friend and I were best friends since I moved to newport beach when I was 6 years old from L.A. And we look very different if you have ever seen the OC or gossip girl, I am Marissa and she is summer I am serena and she is blair. I am tall with long blond hair and sort of troubled and she is shorter with dark brown hair and always seems to be happy. She was always jealous of me despite how much happier she was and always tried to make everything we did a completion. And when we went to different schools I am not going to lie we drifted. Even though we don't have the same problem you do we are both considered to be "rich" but we still had our difference's. But we both realized how big a mistake it was and we just recently after 2 long years of not talking to each other are now friends again. I wish we never would have drifted apart. Don't let a little jealousy ruin such a great relationship. :)

Good luck hun! email me if you ever want to talk.  

Answer 18

wow that was long but do what you thinks best.. what you feel is right dont listen to other people make the decision yourself but think about it first.. please help and answer my questions

Answer 19

hmmm. well u keep comparing ur life to hers.

stop that.

u don't need to. its not the wealth of ppl that defines them. its the ppl, their actions, their words, their thoughts, their minds, and their hearts that truly defines hu they truly are.

when ur with her, don't compare. it might be difficult but its something that u can overcome. and don't look down on ur self. u don't no how great ur life is if u belittle it this way. u won't see how beautiful life really is. vacations and celebrities don't make life everything or perfect. the ppl around u like your friends and ur family and even your time and how u choose to spend it fulfill life!

and as for drifting apart, if it happens than it happens on its own. don't push it.

good luck! : )

Answer 20

i think you should stick by her side.

if shes really your bestfriend you would.

also you should be more thankful for what you do have in life.

lifes not all about being rich & having a perfect life.

Answer 21

if you really want to be friends with her, STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO HER!  i know it may be hard but you will feel so much better... love your life the way it is.... then you can be happy with yourself and still be friends.... think about all the good things in your life and be happy...dont let her make you feel bad...is she a good friend or no...is she worth keeping in your life...analyze it and think with a clear head...think about whats good for yourself and not anyone else...just what you want....hope this helps!!! : ]

Answer 22

okay well if i was you this is wat i would do:

try your hardest to NOT be jealous, be thankful of wat god has given u.  and im pretty sure you have A LOT of good things going on in your life. if hanging out with her makes u feel bad, then u shouldnt hang out with her. hang out with people that make u happy and make u feel GREAT about yourself. you will be a happier person in general. you can still call her and talk and stuff. but try hanging out with other people u can talk to without feeling bad about things. hang out with the friends that u feel more comfortable with :]

i want to add that if she is a good person on the inside, then she is a good person.basically:

obviously if she is ur best friend she must be GREAT on the inside, BUT try to find OTHER friends to hang out with that make u feel good about yourself :D

stay close but find more friends

Answer 23

So long.....cannot possible read....

Answer 24

dont stop being her friend because of how she lives.  this is a personal problem that u need to figure out.  its not her fault that u are feeling this way.