Should I dress down to make my female coworkers like me?

Question

A little background on me. I am a 30 year old woman and my dream was to be a fashion designer but I am an in IT. So I love stylish outfit and like to dress up. Few years back when I had a new baby, going to school and working full time I didn't had time to dress up and eveyone liked me then. I am in a different work place now and most women seem to dislike me without any appearant reason. isolates me, give me short answer with serious face when I try to be friendly. ignores me in the meetings. but they are very nice with everyone else. I do get many complements from men but I don't flirt. I am not trying to attract anyone, I am married and I love my husband. Seems like my dressing up sending wrong messages to them.....should I sacrifice my love for style? :-(

Answer 1

I would say it depends on what you want. Do you want to get along with them? Do you want to be friends with them? If so then do what you can to make yourself someone they want to be friends with. If you know it is your attire causing a problem and your not happy with the problem, you have to fix it. I'm not saying dress like a hobo. But if you have the guys complimenting you for your dress then perhaps it is indeed your outfit that is causing problems with the women. Perhaps they think you are simply trying to get the men to notice or perhaps a male boss to notice you. That maybe your trying to get ahead by the way you dress. Like another answer said, there is a difference between dressing professional and dressing up. I would consider what your wanting before you decide. If you want to be here long term then I would seriously do what you can to make it work.

Just like anywhere else there is a certain amount of compromise that is needed to make your job go more smoothly. Good luck.

Answer 2

You are who you are, and people should accept you as such. They may just feel alienated because you are different from them, or not know how to respond to you. Perhaps they feel inadequate or they're just a bunch of cliquey socialites who don't want to get to know you for who you are.

I say, their loss! You love fashion, and you love to dress up, and there's nothing wrong with that. Don't go out of your way to dress down  just to please a bunch of tuperware dolls.

Continue being who you are, be friendly as you see fit, but don't overdo it either. Eventually they'll either loosen up, or perhaps one day you'll move on to something else.

Either way, you're there to work. Friends are secondary. Just be yourself.

Answer 3

Nope ignore jealous people, its wrong of them to treat you that way because you have style or because you might just be really pretty. They are just jealous they can't make outfits and look as good and you do.. thats all.

Your not sending a wrong message they are.

I get treated differently by women myself, I am married I have 2 children I am young and have a decent body for a mother of 2 and I dress in cute attractive clothing, a lot of mothers give me the look of death and personally I don't think I am attractive but apparently they do. I get snubbed and treated like an outcast.. sorry I don't wear mom jeans.. thats about all I can do.. is ignore it. Im not going to change because other people are jealous.  

Answer 4

Dont change how you are just to fit in. if they dont like you just because you dress more stylish than they probably arent people that you want to be friends with anyways