Should I drop the friendship?

Question

I'm bi and have a friend that I cannot get over. We have an on and off friendship and my feelings don't seem to change. I'm getting sick of my life being on hold because of this guy. I avoid dating and looking for a new significant other. I wanna get my life on track and not have this guy as a road block, only problem is that I don't want to lose his friendship. As much as I want to stay friends with him, I feel as if there is no other way for me to handle this. I have liked him for a long time and cannot get over him, no matter what I do. We've been friends for a few years and have had many good times. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to move on with my life, but I'm not willing to have a possible regret. Is this something I should really go through or should I just live through the unwanted heartache?

Answer 1

I know exactly what you are going through because i'm going through it myself at the moment. What i'm trying to do is just not see my friend as often and not contact him as often as i used to. I'm trying to wean myself of him, for lack of a better word. And at the moment it seems to be working.  

Answer 2

you need to get him out of your system, you need closure, let him know how you feel, if he doesnt feel the same then you have an answer and maybe you can move on..

Answer 3

I agree with Mrmanboy. I had a friend who I couldn't get over, and I'm still not completely over him. You need closure. I never told him how I felt, and so now I'm feeling your unwanted heartache. It sucks, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, so go ask him how he feels. You don't even have to tell him you like him, just ask him how he feels about you, and see what he says.