Should I email and let him know she was out of line?

Question

I'm a 47 yr old single mom who was friends with a 42 yr old single dad for about 3 yrs. We occasionally did things together, and about a year ago he hooked up with his (unhappily) married neighbor. In the past year he has changed dramatically. Has given up screen names, all of his friend, and dissappeared for weeks on end, and when asked about it says he doesn't need friends. Okay. She didn't like the fact we got together one night and dumped him. He is so into her he'll do anything she asks. He vanished for a few months and i started talking to him again (i guess i was a big secret).....just like he is for her. I get a call from him one night saying he ws sorry he left me hanging on a text conversation, his voice got mean and he said he didn't want to talk to me and doesn't want to talk me...they're getting married. No problem, I can walk away. 2 days later SHE calls me telling me that he wants nothing to do with me, not to contact him at all, and if he contacts me he knows the wedding is off. WOW........what was the point of this? I'm guessing she found out we were talking and threw a fit and threatened him. Do i care if they get married? NO, obiviously he likes controlling women...not my issue. However I am pissed that someone 15 years younger than me had the never to call my cell and try to bully and intimidate me. Didn't work sorry. Up til now i have not bothered with him...but I really want to email and tell him she was out of line, she had NO business calling me, and that she can't scare me or tell me what to do and I quite honestly don't care if they get married or not. He wants this crazy cow...he can have her ...good luck!. If he ever reclaims his balls and his brain.. MAYBE we can resume the friendship. It bugs the h**l out of me that she did this what was she trying to prove? Should I? or no?

Answer 1

Do it

Answer 2

let go... you are loosing him and that may not be a bad thing.  

Answer 3

Take a deep breath. Now forget that you want to call her and instead call yourself.

You hooked up with a single man who had been engaged in a flirtatious affair with a married woman. Happy or not, he was betraying the vow of marriage between her and her hubby. You played the role of side interest and probably enjoyed it. Now that he's made a choice to marry this woman (I don't give them 5 minutes), you say you're ready to forget about him, but clearly you aren't.

Her phone call may have been unkind, but out of line? She sees you as a threat, so she decided to mark her territory. Given your history with this man, she probably feels justified.

When you call yourself, ask yourself this question: What do I get out of feeling like I've been insulted? What benefit is there (to my ego) to feel like she was acting a bit too big for her britches?