Should I end things now?

Question

Me and my guy friend are not a typical "couple." Right now we are just test driving our relationship. By that I mean, we are exclusive and we act just like a couple, but we have yet to put a label on it. The reason im thinking about ending it is because I feel like he trys to tell me how I should dress. He makes small comments that really stick around in my head. He'll say things like "Tomorrow you should wear this type of shirt, because it would look better."

Then it makes me feel like what Im wearing isnt good enough for him.

Maybe Im over reacting, he probably means nothing by it, but it makes me feel like I have a ton of pressure on me, on top of the pressure i already have from being in high school.

Answer 1

tell him you don't appreciate the clothing critique.  If he doesn't let up then tell him the experiment is over and the two of you are not compatible.  

If you feel like he's trying to change you or make you over into someone else then let him know you don't appreciate it and break up with him if he doesn't stop.

If he's doing things that annoy you this badly this early in the relationship then they will only get worse as time goes on.  

Answer 2

LOSE HIM. If you see me getting smaller... I'm leaving......

Make yourself disappear.Control can be very dangerous and subtle.  

Answer 3

you are reading to much into an innocent suggestion. you have to put yourself in his shoes. he want to see if you will trust him enough to take him up on his suggestion and he doesnt want every one looking at his potential woman like she is on the single market. so dont be so sensitive. take it with a grain of salt and keep it moving. GodBless

Answer 4

Huge red flag here honey.

Men like that are controllers.  Trust me, two years with him and you will be wearing sweat suits everyday because he will have beaten you down mentally you will think you do not have an attractive bone in your body.

The thing about a test drive, you can walk away.  I suggest run.  Trust me.  He is not right for you, he has damaged this already by establishing the dysfunctional dynamic.

Leave him and make it clear to him why you are too good for him because I suspect you really are :)  

Answer 5

if your in high school then your "friend" shouldn't be telling you what to wear its different if you were married or something he needs to get a grip and you need to find someone who loves you for you not for what you wear what he is doing is called psychological abuse weather you sense it or not

Answer 6

Guys shouldn't give a c**p what you wear. If he's bothered by what you wear, he should find someone else who wears what he likes.

I wouldn't stick with him.....if you aren't even a couple how much worse will it get through the relationship?

When you are married he could mention he likes a certain style of shirt...but not in the dating period.