Should I end things with my friend with benefits?

Question

I really care about him, I lost my virginity to him, but I don't think he feels the same way I feel about him. He told me he would come over last weekend at a certain time (I only had a limited time frame that we could hang out) and he went and did other errands instead. I called him and txted him and he didn't reply so I left a voice message ending our "relationship". He called me back and we talked and he seemed fine that things were ended. He then called me back and txted me later and I didn't reply. The second time he called I picked up. He gave me some good reasons why he couldn't make it on time and I bought it. He then ended up coming over later but I was kind of rude to him. Not mean, but just not very nice. We ended up having s*x and then right after he left. He said he would call me the next day. He didn't. I've sent him 3 txt messages. He hasn't responed to any of them. Now I just need to end things again because this is just to annoying. Should I just stop calling him and wait till he calls me to tell him things are over? Or should I just not pick up or respond when he calls and txts me?

Answer 1

To be honest with you, there really is no way to truly end a friends with benefits, the problem with that is you guys were suppsedly "friends" with some exceptions on the side... now whos to say that in a few months all that will change?? you guys will ALWAYS be friends with benifits unless one of you choose to make it "official".. ** I mean BOTH of you choose to make it official** now as long as you two see eachother there will always be that desire between you two to "want" eachother in a sexual way... to say that you been  "involved" with him is only mixing in with your emotions... you have to realise that friends with benifits just mean "friends" nothing more.. the only exception is the benifites part its almost like a "no strings attached" relationship.. and to be honest thats what every guy wants.. "no commitment" .. you need to really ask yourself is this guy worth it? can you seriously see yourself being more then friends?? i mean this so called "Friends with benefits" is doing more harm then good.. obviously your going to start to feel something.. i mean havent you heard that its almost IMPOSSIBLE for us girls to be friends with benefits with guys without feeling anything! guys on the other hand CAN do that.. so though you may have "feelings" or some sort of "attraction" to him he may not feel the same thus the reason why he doesnt want to commit to you.. WHen a guy truly likes a girl he would go the 1000th mile to commit to her, to see her, to be with her etc etc... and you want to know why? because he cares about her feelings, a guy that doesnt care about your feelings will USE you and friends with benefits is the definition of "using someone" i mean seriously what IS a relationship without commitment? you cant aspect to be with someone only for s*x or small talk.. thats just rediculous.. its possible but not a good thing to do on your part... hes definitaly not intrested in you in a "relationship" type way and couldnt give a rats **** about how you feel... you even said hes friends with benifits and then you go on saying "i dont think he feels the same way I feel about him".. does "friends with benefits" mean anything to you lol?? thats kinda the point!

im sorry but you asked yourself for this.. you put yourself in such a vulnerable situation and now that your heads in it way too deep its gonna be an emotional rollercoastal for you.. especially since you lost your virginity to him...

you will get over  him with time but I hope you learn your lesson.. any guy worth having is a guy that will make YOU his number 1 priority and that means being honest and straight up with you.. i mean if he was smart he would of just simply left it as "friends" and if you were smart you would not of said yes to the friends with benefits thing.. especially since you knew that thats all you ever could be...if a guy likes you and wants to date you he will... if he doesnt he wont.. if he only wants friends with benefits hes not the guy you want to be with... you need to have some self respect for yourself.. seriously... he must see you as easy BIG time... i cant believe you bought into the whole

"im not ready for a relationship"  LMAO okeee their.. if Jessica Alba were to ask him out do you seriously think he would not go out with her?? most likley he would.. without the "friends with benefits, im not ready for a relationship bull"... Im gonna be honest.. hes NOT attracted to you enough to see you as "dating material" which is his reason for not wanting to actually date you.. UNLESS hes like 12 or something, which i HIGHLY DOUBT!

Answer 2

so how did it feel losing your virginity to someone who uses you?

Answer 3

well, if u rly care for him then u should continue to see him, but maybe wait for him to call u. If he calls, then he's still interested but if not, then let it go, don't keep calling. Did that help? idk  

Answer 4

Enjoy being used much?........