Should I even try and give him a second chance? ?

Question

To make a long story short...the father of my child to be left me while I was two months pregnant (i am now four months). During that time he's was messing around with some girl. He now wants to come back and try and form a family with the baby and my self. He said he loves me and missed me. Yet I didnt hear from him all day yesterday... he sent me a text saying that he was trying to get his mind straight. The night he asked me to give him a second chance, I asked him how did I know he wouldnt leave again, and he said that we are having a baby and that he never said we were never going to be together, he just got scared and confused.

I do love him with all my heart, but I'm still hurt that he left me when I needed him the most... I still do, but not hearing from him all day after he asked to be giving a chance really frightens me. Should I even try and give him a second chance?

Answer 1

I read the first two lines.

NO!

He wants someone to stick his d**k in to let him find it else where.

What is going to happen when whatever made him decided to go look else where happens again. You get hurt. He leaves you stuck with baby.

Answer 2

Actions speak louder than words..............

Answer 3

To me he doesn't sound trustworth at all.  I know you'd probably like to keep him around and try to make things work since he's the father of your baby, but, if he's already pulled this and the baby hasn't even arrived yet, it may not be good. Overall though, you need to go with your gut feelings.

Hope all works out

xo

Answer 4

Sounds to me he is selfish, if you love him?!  Let him back in your life like going to dr visits and things like that but remind him that you are just having a baby together you don't have to be together to love the child and give him/her a stable life.  If things work out to him  growing up and proving that he wants you then go with it but DO NOT take him back just cause he ask you too make him earn his right to be with you!  If you dont' you will live a long miserable life with someone who you don't trust good luck!

Answer 5

It's up to you.  If he left when you needed him most this time, what does that tell you about him and what he might do again in the future?  He might leave you when your actually having the baby and say "Well, I got scared again."  Leaving is one thing, not that big a deal, but leaving with another person isn't right.  Think about it.

Answer 6

follow your feelings.  they are most generally true and accurate.  however, you will get a lot of good information about this subject from the book to h**l with h**l.  doesn't sound like a book that would contain this type information, but it does.  i've read it .  a friend loaned me her copy.  it's great.  you can buy it from any book store, or order it on line b&n or amazon dot com.  It was a life saver for me.  Good luck.

Answer 7

You could but start slow, don't let him have the same privileges he had before let him earn them again.  Let him spend time with you like going to the doctors but don't get physical yet, let him see that you are serious in your decisions be strong it's hard but you can if you really want to give it another try.   Good Luck!

Answer 8

Theres a little innocent baby involved, and that truly complicates this.

The way I see it, he is not trustworthy, and he obviously does not value your relationship.

He needs to get "his mind strait"?  What does THAT mean?  Is he trying to decide if he wants to be faithful to you, or continue s******g other women?  That's what it sounds like to me.

I don't know, this guy doesn't seem like he is ready to commit, in my humble opinion.

Answer 9

Honestly, if it were me, I probably would not give him that chance. It takes a long time to build up trust like that again. And like you said, he left you when you needed him the most, what's to say he won't leave you when something else big happens? Is he going to get nervous and run to someone else again?

If you do take him back, tell him it's on a trial basis and that you're not going to give your trust out like that again right away. Make him have to prove his love to you before you fully give your heart to him again.

Answer 10

Tell him your scared too and need him to show you that he is serious.  Do not go by what he says..go by what he does.  Do not make fast decisions and make sure that you make you and your baby your TOP priority.