Should I feel bad about this?

Question

Hubby and I are in classes together to be EEG techs, I tried to study with him the first few months, but he never wanted to study when I did, I've reminded him over & over about homework which he would either not do, or wait till last minute to do, and I got tired of feeling like I was his mother, so I just leave him be about it. All of our tests I have done really good on (last was a 98), and his scores are passing, but not as high. Whenever I talk to one of my friends or someone in our family about it, I let them know how I did on my test because I have really worked hard for my grades, & very proud of myself. I don't tell them what his scores are, so it's not like I'm saying "I got this, I did better...", but he always makes me feel bad. I don't think I should. I have told him that I am very proud of him, and don't make a big deal out of it, but he still makes me feel bad, even says stuff like "well you studied more than me", not really giving me the credit I think I deserve. Am I just being overly touchy about this? Don't I have a right to be proud? Or is he being ridiculous?!

Answer 1

I think you should be proud and yes, I think he is being ridiculous. When he is around, you could just say something like "I did really well on that test". If you don't give the score, maybe your husband wont feel so defensive. And good for you for not continuing to remind him of his homework. He is an adult and should know to do his homework. It's not your fault you study more than he does. Keep up the good work and be proud of yourself!

Answer 2

You should be proud of what you have done. You should also be proud of how much you have studied. Don't let that be taken from you. Great  job!