Should I feel bad???

Question

My husband and I are going on a cruise in 12 days. We saved for this trip for over an year and are very excited. My sister ,who has never been stable, came to me yesterday and asked my for $300.00 to pay the light bill at friend's house where she has been staying. I told her I didn't have it. Which I don't, my husband and don't have that much extra cash since paying for our cruise. My sister called my mother who called me trying to make me feel guilty about going on a cruise while my sister has no lights. I told her that my sister could go to work everyday just like I do then she would not need me to pay her bills. Now niether of them are speaking to me. I AM NOT GOING TO PAY IT!!! Am I the wrong one here???? Should I feel bad ????

Answer 1

no dont feel bad bc it is not your fault that she is finacially unstable if she led on a normal life and worked maybe she could pay her bills and i bet she knows that you were going on that trip and saved up for it so she should feel guilty for asking for your money that you saved up for a long time and trying to take away your trip

Answer 2

I agree with the answers so far.  If your sister can use the electric, she can pay for it.  If your mom really cared about it, instead of jumping all over you, she should pay the bill.  Free yourself from their guilt trip.  Go on the cruise, enjoy it to the fullest and take a lot of pictures.  Make some enlargements of a few of the best moments.  Frame them and give one to your mom and one to your sister.  You can add captions, but I suggest the following:

We had a great time!  It is always a blessing to enjoy what you have earned.

The rewards of being a good steward are always just desserts.

You get the idea, I'm sure.  Take your cruise dear.  Live it up as much as you can and don't have any regrets about it.

Answer 3

No, you did the right thing. If your mother thinks it's so important then she should pay the bill, as she apparently believes enabling someone is good for them. Go and enjoy your trip and don't give them a second thought.

Answer 4

You are most definitely NOT wrong!  Your sister needs to be responsible for herself.  How your mother and your sister both are treating you is terribly wrong and they are the ones that owe you an apology.  Do NOT feel bad!  Wipe them out of your mind, go on your cruise with your husband and have a wonderful time.  You both worked hard for this and for your own family to treat you like this is so wrong.  

Answer 5

It is not your responsibilty to pay for your sisters expenses at someone elses apartment.  If your mother is so worried, why doesn't she pay for it?

Answer 6

NO WAY! Don't feel bad, or at least try not to. I have the same situation in my life. I worked hard every day for 20 some years now while my brother lived at home(with MOM) and usually didn't have a job. When I bought a home that had a big bedroom I felt so guilty just sleeping in such a big room and every night I felt bad. My brother still calls and wants money all the time and even called me I'm a liar because I said I couldn't afford to give him any more money. Enough is enough. I still do feel guilty sometimes but if you work for a living, you deserve what you get, and if you don't work for a living, you deserve what you get. Lose the guilt and I will try to too! LOL

Answer 7

If your sister has the ability to work but chooses not to, then you're completely right.  You don't owe her a thing.

If she is unable to work, it's up to you how charitable you choose to be.  You still don't technically owe her anything.

Either way, your mother doesn't have the right to make you feel guilty.  Last I heard, you're entitled to spend your money any way you see fit.  

Answer 8

you don't need to feel bad just believe in what your doing