Should I feel guilty about my prejudices and trying to escape them?

Question

I admit. I was prejudiced leaving to college. I stayed away from certain groups of men, not due to much experience, but media, what others had told me and certain vibes I gathered.

I felt guilty, and decided to open up...yet, I found that a lot of the stereotypes resonate (probably out of stereotype threat and culture). No joke - at least around where I live.

Why do I feel guilty for not remaining prejudice (I feel vulnerable?) since I feel like I have been more hurt than experienced situations that would erase or expand my prejudices?

Can anyone help out?

Answer 1

Although it is often not a good idea to stereotype because not every single person in a group is exactly the same, stereotypes do come about for a reason.  No one just jumped up and made up a stereotype to be funny- it was based on observations.  That's why people think comedians are so funny when they point out these characteristics and say what others shouldn't (but want to).  No, you shouldn't feel guilty.  They are your thoughts.  Just don't assume that "ALL" of a group is the same, as there are probably a select few that are not.

Answer 2

Stereotypes are always based on correct observations.

Answer 3

Because when a person begins their venture of "opening up" and "freeing themselves from old vices", they go thru the initial pain and vulnerability of that choice.  It's like you've been living in one city for 30 years and then you move to another city.  Initially, you will feel vulnerable and it will be scary.  But once you get used to your new way of thinking, it will be second nature to you.

Answer 4

Well, I think everybody is a little prejudice and for some cases it is correct but not because of what the media potrays them as but who they are. Just don't let it get to you too much. You'll probably miss out on a lot.

Answer 5

You do not need to feel guilty about your prejudices. You can not control your thoughts. What counts is your actions. Just try to keep an open mind and always treat all people the way you wish to be treated. you can only do your best.

Answer 6

Stereotypes are the way we all make judgements, initially, but when we don't challenge them they begin to underpin bigotry and prejudice.

So, it's ok to think 'I'm wary of that man, because he looks like he may do something bad to me cos he has a certain look etc... but to then say ALL men who look like that will be bad is so destructive and will lead to generalised prejudice.

Don't feel guilty about being human! Simply learn to challenge your own judgements, and don't necessarily believe everything you see or hear about groups of other people.