Should I feel guilty about not playing golf with my dad?

Question

I'm 16 and my dad keeps bugging me to play golf with him ( I like playing golf, i've been playing for about 7 years) but I dont want to play golf with HIM.

He never comes to my soccer games or anything else that is important to me and the only thing he ever wants to do is play golf with me and I keep saying no because he doesn't know how to compromise. Its always his way.

And hes also an elitist bigot who hates everyone (g**s, muslims, poor people, democrats, liberals, e.t.c)

hes been bugging me all day to play golf and I said no and he started saying how "god cursed him with a lazy son" blah blah blah

Its annoying

I dont know why I should be the one whose feeling bad about this

I'd play golf if I didn't have to listen to him talk about how he hates everyone and how much money he makes.

Help??

Answer 1

im sixteen as well. i can relate in the way the as i continue to get older my relationship with my parents has changed slightly. look, as much as you dont want to go play golf with him it would be for the better. a father-son relationship is incredibly important especially to a father. even though the relationship may be getting rocky avoiding him will only make it worse. you need to keep that close relationship, youll need him and that relationship when u get even older, have kids, ect. as for the conversation part, change the topic. maybe he only speaks of that bc hes not sure wat to talk to you about. and he may talk about how much money he makes bc he wants you to be impressed. it seems like he is making an effort to build the relationship so you need to take advantage.

and for the never going to your soccer games. i can only say that at one point in time i thought my step dad didnt want to go to my tennis matches but i later learned that between work and my four other siblings it was very hard on him to come especialyl bc of the time frame. just talk to him and tell him thats really important to you that he comes to one of games.

the best solution is to talk to him and tell wat is going on and why you wont play with him. he could have no clue why youre avoiding him which only makes him hostile and sad, putting a strain on the relationship

feel free to email me if u want more help

Answer 2

That's also happened to me, I'm also 16 and Ive also played golf for 7 years.

And I think you should talk to him seriously. explain that in any relationship (parent-son) there needs to be reciprocity/equality, you do your part he does his.

and by the way, make sure you have a not so lame excuse to say no to the golf games.

He'll feel you're lazy, let him know your not and why you don't want to play with HIM.

Answer 3

NO you shouldn't feel guilty. My grandma is the same way. Try talking to him and explain that it is really uncalled for. If that doesn't work try and have your mom talk to him. If that still doesn't work, tell him "Until you can stop being a jerk, I don't want to hang out with you anymore."

Answer 4

BOO HOO BOO HOO

Answer 5

I don't think you should feel guilty when i was that age i didn't spend much time with my parents and who wants to spend time with someone who is always negative anyway