Should I feel this bad? My mother doens't talk to me anymore because I am not in her religion and wants nothin

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to do with me. She wouldn't answer my calls anymore. This started last October. Anyway the only time I heard from her was when she sent me a little note in the mail telling me how sorry she was for the loss of my baby in Jan. of this year. And that she made a decision

not to have anything to do with me because I am not in her reilgion anymore. O.k, whatever that is her choice I thought to myself. But then a couple months later I hear from someone who is in the religion that my mom told her about my miscarrige and that I am depressed and all that. LIKE SHE KNOWS!

IT made me mad. She made the choice not to have me or my son in her life but she is acting like I am! By telling everyone who I don't care to know my business and personal stuff.

But she came to my house last Sunday wanting to see my son. She didn't say hi when I opened the door she just asked to see my son. I told her no. Why should she? It doesn't seem fair to me that she can pick and choose who she wants in her life and not expect any consquences from it.

It's not that I feel bad because I didn't let her see my son, it makes me mad that she thinks shecan have contact with him, but not want anything to do with her own daughter. Because of her religion, which is Jehovah's Witness. If I am consireded worldly (according to them I am) wouldn't my son be the same?

Was I wrong to not let her see him? Was I supposed to stand back while my mother loved up my son and ignored me?

I cannot ever forgive her for that.

Answer 1

wow.

dont feel bad for any reason.

i cant believe your mother would act like this, it is so horrible.

religion isnt suppose to judge people and seperate them, but bring them together. she must not practice what she preaches.

if i were you i would keep your son as far away as possible from your mother. you do not want her thought process rubbing off on him, and i can bet that is what she will try to do.

despite the fact she is your mother, that doesnt give her any rights when she is acting like this.

keep her out of your sons and yours life. if she loves you both, she will come around.

Answer 2

No to sound like a b*tch but she might want to see your son, to try and talk him into picking her beliefs over yours.  Im sorry but that is very rude of her to turn her back on her own daughter.  Who cares what your beliefs are, as long as your not some sick lady being mean to animals.  I think people are to judgmental when it comes to religion.  If people are not what they are, then they want nothing to do with that person.  I'm sorry Im just going on, but yes I agree with your decision.  He is your son, and if your mother wants nothing to do with you, then she should have nothing to do with your son.  If she wants to act civil with you then she can see your son when your there with them (thats what my views are.)

Answer 3

don't feel bad. your mom seems like a stupid evil women...

Answer 4

You have every right to be mad.  I would have done the same thing you did.

My in-laws are JW's. My husband grew up as one but was never baptized.  I am waiting for them to do the same thing to us.  I wouldn't let them do that to my children either.  I don't know why they go to kingdom hall all the time but they still call us and everything.  I am afraid to ask them.  

Always stick up for yourself and your son.

I am sorry for you loss too.  Don't let your mom depress you more than what you have already felt.

Answer 5

Ummm, I grew up a Jehovah's Witness and there is no reason for her to act that way unless you were baptized and then disfellowshipped. If you were then you knew very well what the consequences might be when you made that choice, don't whine about them now. If not, how long has she been a witness? It sounds like she misunderstands the guidelines of the religion. My parents are very active JW's and I don't live a lifestyle that conforms even a little to what they think is morally right but I never formally committed to their lifestyle (baptism) so they have respect for my choices and wholly support my independence as an adult who can live her own life. Seems to me there is a misunderstanding here. And no, she can't pick and choose like that.  

Answer 6

Your mom should feel bad for choosing her silly cult over her own daughter!

Answer 7

This is hard and sooo sad. I think that you were right to not allow your mother to see your son because he is apart of you, he is your baby and she needs to respect (YOU) the mother.

I could not have someone in my home who does not speak to me.

Religion should not be so biased, if it is biased than how could it be religion?

I hope that you two heal together because life is short.

I am so sorry sweetie, hang in there.