Should I file a complaint about this boy's harassment at school?

Question

This summer has been a nightmare because I've been excessively worrying about if the boy who persistently harassed me last school year will harass me again in high school. I went through so much trouble because of him. I had a very hard time because of him. He didn't sexually harass me but he would always be staring at me whenever I'm in his site & he's always communicating to me in an awkward way non-stop no matter how many times I tell & ask him to leave me alone. I don't have a problem if people just stare but he stares at me all the time when I'm having class with him. I told the counselor about him & the counselor told him not to communicate to me for harassment but he didn't stop. I called the school's assistant principle when school ended, and I've been starting to worry about him & she told me he's going to get charged but then she told me my parents are supposed to take him to court. Mom doesn't beleive me. I called a hotline, a person told me there's nothing a hotline can do, I'm supposed to get my mom to file a complaint. I went to the therapist for the first time in a few months & I just started crying because I was having a hard time because of him.

Answer 1

You need to make an appointment with your HS principal to discuss this matter with him. If your mother was with you, it'd be better, but not required. You should say to your principal that this boy is harassing you and you are asking that he do everything to prevent this once school begins. Some things he can do is to be sure you have different schedules, have hall monitors and asst. prins. be aware & lookout for it, etc.etc. As soon as you leave his office, mail a letter to him, expressing the same issue in writing, thanking him for meeting with you, and stating that you hope further action by you or your parents will not be necessary, etc.etc. Send a copy of your letter to your district superintendent, just to cover yourself with the head office.  THEN! If junior continues to harass you, you can say that you warned them, and raise all sorts of sand about it (such as by going with your parents to a school board meeting to express your concerns). Harassment is something school officials are legally required to respond to, and your school district probably has an administrator whose job it is to deal with harassment and discrimination.

Answer 2

he looked at you not raped you..... maybe if you didn't give him all of this attention he would stop. if you try to get a restraining order they will laugh at you. you made the school officials aware of the problem if he does it again next year inform them again, they should be able to have your/his schedule changed to where you dont have to interact with him at all in the classroom.

good luck

Answer 3

Look in the mirror.  The problem is NOT him, it is your reaction to him.

Get back in therapy.  Stop blaming him.

You are the one that needs to change.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Oh I'm so sorry this is troubling you so much.

You didn't say how old you are, but, that shouldn't matter.

Get yourself a listing of every lawyer in your area and call each and every one of them until you get one to listen to you.  One of them will listen to you or tell you what to do - I hope!

Also, talk to every adult you can - again!

Added to this keep yourself a little note book and write down each and every time he bothers you - the time the date and how long the *attack* lasts.

Never ever allow yourself to be alone at any time at school, going to or returning home after school.

Best of Luck!

Stay safe!

*hug*

Answer 5

It doesn't sound like there's any kind of lawsuit here.

If I were you, I would go to the principal and ask for a schedule change so that you don't have any classes with him and so that you don't have the same lunch.

If he doesn't/can't do anything, then I think you have to make it abundantly clear to the guy that he is bothering you.

Of course, you have to consider the possibility that he is a teenage boy, and you are a teenage girl, and he may just like you. It certainly sounds like it to me. Though that doesn't make him any less creepy...

Answer 6

If this boy is truly harrassing you and you have continued to ask him to stop and he wont.  Then yes, file a complaint.  You have every right in the world to feel safe at school and if this boy makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe then you definately need to do something about it.  Start with your councelor again.  If going to him/her doesn't work, then go the the assistant principal and keep going higher up until something is done.  This time, don't wait until the end of the school year to talk to the assistant principal do it immediatly.

~Hope this helps!

Answer 7

If no one is helping you, you need to take it to the school board and what your ***. principal told you is BS. She is trying to pass the buck; it is up to the SCHOOL, not you, not your parents, to stop this weenie. So since she refuses to do her job, you need to take it to the next level, which is the school board, this is harassment and abuse and is illegal.

Answer 8

You should have filed a police report. You should have went with your parents and filed a harassment charge against this boy.  

Answer 9

Make sure that you don't have any classes with him.  They can change your schedule if necessary.

Then it shouldn't be too hard to avoid him.  If he doesn't stop, go to the police yourself.

Answer 10

I don't see what part of that is harassment.  How is it that he communicates with you in an awkward way?  Staring at you is not considered harassment in a criminal way (maybe the school could trump it up to harassment, but not a crime).   You can't file anything from something that happened last year.  That should have been done last year.  you are just going to have to wait to see what happens this year.  Maybe the counselor can change your schedule if you have classes with him.  With all the other legitimate harassment that occurs to some students, I think you are being overly sensitive to someone staring at you.  Some people don't understand that it makes others feel uncomfortable.  I don't think there is anything he can get "charged" with school wise, much less criminally.

Answer 11

No, stop being a pansy and ask him to leave you alone youself.  Call his parents if you really have to.

Answer 12

Just ignore him, it's not that hard.

Answer 13

report it to police asap

let him know the police know and he will be paid avisit!

Answer 14

You're making this too complicated, but you're a woman, so I can understand.

Confront him

If he likes you, tell him to S**t or get off the pot, tell him to talk to you and get to know you cause all he is doing is making you think he's a weirdo.

If he IS a weirdo, tell him to leave you the h**l alone or you'll beat the tar out of him