Should I file child support on my husband.We've been separated for a month and he isnt really helping me out?

Question

I moved out our home with my two children because home life was like h**l. I got fed up with not being treated like a wife but was treated like a doormat. Now that I am away the only thing my husband helps take care of is daycare. Not even gas or anything else, even though I am picking the baby up and dropping him off and being the sole provider of him on a daily basis. But my husband is staying at our home with no worries, he makes triple what I make but I am left to care for two kids on a tight budget.Would I be wrong to file child support even if there is a slight chance of us getting back together? I haven't even considered maintenance(alimony) for myself, I am just concerned about the care of the kids. He told me if I didn't like what he was giving me I shouldn't have left home, but I got tired of being treated the way I was.

Answer 1

You have to make sure that your kids are taken care of, I would file for child support.  You need to make sure that your kids have the things they need.  Since you have tried to get more out of him, he is not willing to help you, let someone else deal with him and get what your kids deserve!!  Best of luck!!

Answer 2

WOW, assuming what you are saying is TRUE, you should have called the cops and got him thrown out for abuse. TRUST me, I do not say this lightly, THEN you should have immediately gotten a court order for him to pay for the house and kid and all.

There is another way, and many women do it. Take the kid and go live with your parents. File the order for child support and alimony on the grounds you had to leave since he is abusive. THEN, just live your life and move on. The money will be gotten by the courts, he won't be able to get around it, and you can put things back together.

If it were me, and I was not being mean or abusive to him, I would never go back with such a jerk. YOU can do better, and YOU WILL do better.

Answer 3

Yea, you could get child support.  However being as you abandoned the home i doubt you would get alimony.  You also might consider the cost of day care before you file for child support, courts are only going to give you a set amount and after that he will no longer be obligated to pay anything more then what the child support is set at.  You will end up having to pay for the day care out of that.

Questions like this make me wonder why people are stupid enough to have children without making sure everything is right in their relationship first.  I feel sorry for the kids, they deserved to have parents that were intelligent enough to not have them before they were ready.

Honestly though, i tend to believe that he probably treated you like a wife, but just didn't live up to your expectations of what you thought he should and should not do.. While he may not have legal grounds for denying you child support, i'd still have to agree with him on what he told you about not liking what he was giving you.

Answer 4

Absolutely....you have every right!...its his kids!...his kids needs lights, food, clothes, gas to get back and forth to day care...men or should i say boys kill me and this "have it all or have nothing mentality"...u deserve every penny....save all receipts gas too and take his butt 2 court!