Should I find out the gender of my baby?

Question

I don't know If i should I want it to be a surprise but My hubby wants to know What should I do and how could I convince him to wait?

Answer 1

MY due date is feb 15th too!!!! I am having the same problem but i was telling him that i dodon'tant to know but he talked me in to it because he wanted to start buying stuff good luck!!!!

Answer 2

the next time you go to the doctor bring your husband with you. Then let the doctor tell him out in the hall. Make sure your husband knows that you want it to be a surprises for you, but that you don't care if he knows just not to tell anyone who will go and tell you. hope this helps.  

Answer 3

I'm putting in a vote for not finding out.  I worked in a maternity hospital for many years and do you know what you really want?  A HEALTHY baby.  We didn't find out for our son and we won't find out for this one either....it is the most joyous surprise you will ever experience.  Plus, do we really need to consign our children to gender stereotypes from the minute they are born?!!!!

Answer 4

The md could tell your husband and not you so its a surprise for you, but that's a pretty big secret to keep. Let it be a surprise, its one of the best surprises you could ever get and well worth the wait. Congrats!

Answer 5

I have had 3 babies and found out for all of them...Even though it is a surprise to wait, it also a surprise when u find out through ultrasound and when u see what your baby actually looks like...

There are so many things u can plan for when finding out the s*x that are so much fun...Choosing names, going shopping for that specific s*x, baby shower with a boy or girl theme etc..It is your choice if u want to wait but I could not..I said before I found out i am pregnant again that i was going to leave it a surprise just for the heck of it but as soon as the test turned positive i couldnt wait and still cant wait to find out if its a boy or girl =)

Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Is it possible for you to not know...and your husband find out and not tell you? I've heard of other couples doing this and it seems to work out pretty well.

If not, what are your husband's reasons for wanting to know? Is his heart set on a specific s*x? Is he looking at the financial aspect (an "it's easier to buy when you know what you're having" sort of thing)? Or...? Without knowing just why he wants to know, it is hard to give you specific advice on what to do.

Answer 7

It's his baby a well as yours. Tell him that if he wants to know, not to tell you. Tell him you would like to be surprised. I wanted to know so that I would be prepared for the baby early and not run around and get everything afterwards. Believe you /me you will be tired and sore afterwards. It's a personal choice, but don't try to tell your husband what he can and can't know.  

Answer 8

What is the point of waiting? I mean, it's hard because first of all, maybe each of you are hoping for a certain s*x, and then when it's born, instead of enjoying the baby, you could be a little disappointed if you had a boy and for example wanted a girl... Also, its best to know before because you can begin shopping for clothes.... Having to shop after the baby is born is very stressful, especially when its stressful enough with a  newborn...

Answer 9

Find out, cause then you'll know what kind of clothes/toys to buy for him/her.

Answer 10

i have found out with my two older kids and i will find out with my twins.  12w3d preg.  i really need to know with the twins, so we can start buying stuff early since we have to buy double.  i think it is also better to find out because that way, you can be prepared and have everything bought and ready for when the baby gets here.

Answer 11

I personally wanted to know and the doctors aren't always right so if they tell you a girl still be prepared for it possibly being a boy. And this way if you know too you will be able to prepare a better name for your child instead of thinking of one on the spot or somewhat have a name picked out.

Answer 12

Well, decide what you want to do first. It can be a wonderful surprise but knowing the gender does help in preparing more. If you don't want to and your husband does just have the tech write it on a piece of paper and your husband can look at it by himself. Or you two can go to dinner and open it together then.

Answer 13

i am due in march 09. i have my first scan in two weeks (12 week scan) dr wait might be possibility of finding out gender, however the 18- 20 weeks scan definitely be able to tell. i really want to know, i haven't really discussed with my partner, but my mother really does not want to know, but my sister wants to know.. imagine keeping that a secret from my mother. wish me luck

Answer 14

  I agree with char, but if your case has to deal with making some chose in male or female before the birth yes, other then that. A scan does not only provide the s*x, but any problems that might be going on with the baby's growth. I chose a scan because of my circumstance, not by wanting to know s*x. But its your chose and up to your peditrition if needed for medical reasons.

Answer 15

That is up to you.  Tell your husband you want it to be a surprise.  And who knows when you get in there for the ultrasound, it is so emotional and happy, that you might change your mind.  My son couldn't contain himself and had to show us more than once, so we knew for sure.  2 ultrasounds and he was very proud.  The ultrasound lady laughed.  But we wanted to know, because we wanted to shop for gender.  It's hard to find alot of neutral baby stuff.

Answer 16

I personally think its better to know, you can buy stuff even before he/she is born and just knowing what you are having!

Answer 17

WELL IF YOU WANT IT TO BE A SURPRISED AND DONT WANT TO KNOW THEN THE NEXT TIME YOU GO TO YOUR OBGYN APP. TELL YOUR DOCTOR THAT YOU DONT WANT TO KNOW BUT HE DOES AND HE/SHE CAN LOOK FOR HIM AND HAVE YOU STEP OUT THE ROOM AND TELL HIM. NOW THE THING IS IS HE GOING TO KEEP IT FROM YOU OR ARE YOU GOING TO GIVE IN AND ASK HIM BECAUSE YOU KNOW HE KNOWS.  

Answer 18

It's really up to you, but I wanted to find out because it seemed as if my husband and my dad were bickering at eachother on the baby's s*x. My husband said it was a boy and my dad said it was a girl and plus I wanted to know for when I get my baby shower. I'm having a girl and this way my husband doesn't have to be talking to the baby as if the baby were a boy and then get totally disappointed after he found out it was a girl.

So it's totally up too you.  

Answer 19

I am a CCMA

That is your PERSONAL decision and NO one here should tell you how to make that decision

Answer 20

My hubby and I decided not to find out what we were having when we had our son.  Its an irreplaceable feeling of excitement you get when your hubby or the doctor looks down and says "its a boy" or "its a girl" and it will give you something to look forward to.

I know a lot of people decide to find out so they can pick names and plan a nursery.  We had a short list of both boys and girls names and planned white and neutral colours.

Its a personal choice but I think its best that you both agree on whether you're going to find out because its not the easiest secret to keep and if you do find out everyone will want to know in advance.

Best wishes with your bub whether it be a boy or a girl :)

Answer 21

I had this decision to make a couple of weeks ago. I thought about it like opening all your christmas pressies before christmas day. I think if it's your first its best to have the surprise but it does come down to personal choice.