Should I forget about this 'friend'? I should to consider this girl my best friend since college until now

Question

for around 3. I was in hospital & never told hardly anyone she was one of the few people who knew & said she would visit me but said shes out of petrol,even after exams she never visited me at home like she said (it was emotionally a tough time I needed her to be there & she was not she never even sent a text or when she saw me online asked me how I was). I was there for her when she had hospital appointments & was worried. Whenever I try to link something seems to crop up last minute & she cancels. I am the one always trying to meet or call, I feel I am being distenced & did not understand why? I saw some pictures on facebook recently of

her I saw some pictures which were hurtful to see. She was a practicing sister and I saw pictures of abayah off & tight jeans, short top and 3 quarter tops with arm showing though shes still wears hijab though I guess that's why shes distenced from me. If shes getting side tracked from deen then maybe I should let her go but it's hard, any input? Jk!

Answer 1

I can relate sis, my friends have changed in time and so have i but i always keep that motive clear in my mind that i owe my loyalty to Allah (swt) so even if my friends sometimes neglect me i know i am never alone because allah (swt) is always there. I help my friends when they are in need and  its a good thing that you do 2, because we know that it is right in our heart and i don't always expect credit a lil thankyou would be nice.  

Some of my friends distanced for me becuase they have different motives in mind...but i always let them know that i am always there and u should 2  and some decided to stick with me because we had the same motives in mind, so why not make new friends, Wat about me for starters LOL???

Asslamu alaikum sis

Answer 2

My dear sister salkam for you.No you are better if you do not forget her.Muhammad pbuh suggested us to maintain good relationship (silaturahmi) among family,relatives,neighbours and friends.You must talk to her and see her why she can not be contacted by phone. A friend in need is a friend indeed.

You must discuss with the matter and make a good solution for both of you.You must give and accept advice to each other for good doings as suggested by Allah..Insya allah you can because where there is a will there is a way.

Answer 3

Salaams sis. This sounds like an awful lot like what i went through with a close friend of mine (not close now though). I know it can be hard to accept that your friend wants nothing to do with you anymore, but ask yourself do you really want to associate with a person like that? She has lost her identity, but sister, dont lose yours. x

Answer 4

hurtful pictures??????????/ no wonder shes distancing herself from people like u

Answer 5

So what, let her live her life her way. Just because she like doing and wearing other things doesn't mean she has to be the same.

If you still want to her friend, than be a friend.

Answer 6

Look past her faults and try and maintain contact with her however if she continues in not contacting you then move away from her and bear in mind there are people like that, till this day I give and give to people but in return I dontt even get a inch of support from thm even if it just a hug to tell me things will be okay, however neverthless your reward is with Allah  :)

My definition of a true friend is someone who is going to love me for me. The good times and the bad. They can find out my past and still love me. They are there to listen any time I need to talk or cry. They will not tell any of my secrets unless the secret is endangering my life. They can be truthful with me regardless of what it may be or if it hurts my feelings. They don't talk about me behind my back and they stick by me no matter what unless I have done them wrong. They don't end up disappearing from my life without good reason and we remain close. They would do anything for me unless it was something super unreasonable for them to do. In other words, they would give me the shirt off of their back if I needed it. They must have a kind heart and hold their friends close to it all times.

Its seems the above does not apply as she is not there for you, the choice is yours.