Should I forgive my ex-friends?

Question

It all started back in 7th grade. I was best friends with this girl Suzi&&we did mostly everything together. Then we started drifting apart before 7th grade ended. I tried calling her, but she never answered. So when I finally recieved a phone call from her I figured I was gonna get some answers. Well, turns out I just got accused of pretending to be our friend Jenn&&talking c**p 'bout her to Suzi. I don't know why they thought it was me. I mean wouldn't they recognize the differences in our voices&&use caller ID. Besides I forgot how to use *67 at the time. They started leaving me messages on Myspace calling me names&&how horrible of a person I was to try to ruin their friendship. They invited me into chat rooms on AIM&&gained up on me. They left me voicemails giggling&&then they would hang up. They also once on AIM posed as this guy I used to have a major crush on, ask me out then they called me saying "I can't believe you fell for that. Do you seriously think Cam would go out with a horrible person like you?" It got to a point where my mom was about to have a talk with their moms about it. I was waiting for some sort of apology from 'em, but I never got it. I remember calling one of Suzi's friends a hoe on one of my friend's myspaces&&Suzi saw it. They sent me friend requests. I thought they did so they could apologize to me 'cause I had my page on private, but I was dead wrong. They added me in order to get a picture from me and use 'em for a fake hater Myspace. They sent me a friend request for that one&&I blocked all of 'em. That really hurt my feelings&&I remember crying the whole night that happened. I just couldn't believe I lost 3 of my closest friends so soon. Now they want to forgive me, what should I do? I don't like being awkward when we have some of the same classes together.

Answer 1

what they did to you was extremely cruel... such typical girl hostility...... i, personally, would never get over sth so hurtful... are they even apologizing? or they want to forgive you? (so you're the one to be blamed?) well.. if they wanna stop the fued, let them stop it, but hone, please go find some nicer frds. i don't think you'll have a problem making new frds... just be nice, genuine and frdly and be yourself and you'll be able to meet some real frds.

may i suggest in the future, try never to gossip around. it's the worst thing anyone could do to another person -- and you know bc you were a victim. and protect yourself on the net so that no one can get a hold of your picture.

those are not your frds anymore. what they did was really wrong and immature, cyber bullies... you deserve better frds.

don't hate them, but don't get involved with them anymore, not worth your time.  

Answer 2

If they want to apologise and you want to be friends, forgive them if you feel it's in the past and be casual friends with them. I wouldn't ever be able to be best friends with people like that, but I wouldn't think there's anything wrong with just having light conversation with them if you're in the same classes together. If you've made new friends and are happy, I wouldn't go back to your ex friends again, as they may hurt you

hope that helps--x