Should I forgive my mom?

Question

I am 12 years old and the other day when I got back from camp I started my period, so I was very moody. Plus I was sad to leave camp. I was talking back to my mom so I got put in "time-out." I asked her how many minutes I had left, and she added another minute, so I asked again, and she came over and hit me on the side of my head 3 times, with a pause between each blow. It hurt so bad I was crying and holding my head. She was holding a spatula and I could've sworn one of the blows was with that. Later, she kissed and hugged me and apologized, and numerous times that night she apologized. She thinks we are okay, but somehow I keep having flashbacks of that day and I find it hard to forgive her.

Answer 1

Let me put it this way: If your mom had done that to another adult, she'd be arrested for assault. And she's not allowed to hit you, either. It is child abuse and no, you cannot forgive her for doing this until she admits it's wrong.

You have rights. If you tell a teacher or school counselor or even a doctor, they have to report it to Child Protective Services. You can also report it yourself. You may want to protect your mother, but she will keep hitting you and it will damage you psychologically. SHE NEEDS HELP.

Answer 2

This is so sad sweetie!!!  I don't like hitting!  Do I think you should forgive her?  Absolutely!!!  She flipped out and from what you said I think hitting you hurt her worse than it hurt you!  Now, if this is just something that happened once then talk to her.  Let her know how painful that was not only physically but emotionally.  There is nothing you can't work out with words and love.  Hitting does not bring any good to either person.  You talked back and yeah we were not allowed to do that but we didn't get hit.  My mom had a look that was far scarier than a beating! haha  One time though she did hit me and I deserved it!  I said I was gonna kill myself, I was your age.  She flipped!  She said "you don't have to kill yourself, I'll do it for you"!!  hahaha   She was the best mom in the world, she's been gone for six years now and I would do anything for just one more day, even if it was the day I got the beating!!!  hahahhaha   Nothing in the world like a mother and daughter, yes forgive her and give her extra love honey!  Love conquers all!!!   :-))))

Answer 3

Your mom didn't go the extreme hon.Quit giving her a hard time and you wont be getting disciplined.

Answer 4

well it's your fault you are right. but you should forgive her because your mother will always have your back when everyone else kicks you in the dust. i have learned from experience. you see she cared enough to apologize numerous times.  

Answer 5

mom was happy to see you and your talking back made her mad.you are at fought so let it go.we all have did things out of anger but we catch ourselves.That's why mom was apolgizing,she really is sorry.you need to apologize for the way you were acting .so forgive her.

Answer 6

Talking back to your parents is a normal thing that people do. But hitting is not Normal! You never hit your kids no matter what!!!! I would be furious with her! And by her then later trying to make up with you all lovey dovey ...I would have a serious talk with her. I would take the responsibility for your actions and say you are sorry again. But you must tell her what she did was unacceptable! Tell her that you know what she did was wrong! And also tell her that you hope that it will never happen again. Tell her ,her behavior was abusive. And that you would never hit her. And that you would expect her to treat people the way that she would want to be treated! Also express to her that you can't seem to get this image out of your mind. Tell her what "she" did to you has scarred you...

"If she continues to hit, slap or punch you. You must report her! I'm worried for you. protect yourself. Even if it is from your mother. I would talk to a guidance councilor at your school more about this.

Answer 7

Talking back to a parent is being disrespectful. Although hitting in the head is uncalled for which is why your Mom has apologized  to you and is so sorry. I am sure your Mom loves you. You should have been

punished by removing something from you that you liked for a week or two. Yes forgive your Mom!

Answer 8

Did you learn not to sas your mother yet ?

get over it and go help her out.

you got to go to camp this week, we had to work around here and clean up this mess.

then you and little "aunt flo" come home with an attitude.

you are so lucky i was at work,i dont play the time out game,

get over it and start minding your mother !!!

NOW !  !  !

Answer 9

it will hurt her more than it hurt you... im guessing that you were alot worse than what you are letting on here... end of the day forgive her, shes your mum, lifes short make the most of it... go give her a big kiss just now!!... shes probably feeling so bad..  

Answer 10

Kids today could use a spanking every now and again. It is pretty extreme that your mother hit you in the head. It's hard being the mother of a good kid let alone one who talks back. Your mother is a person too. It sounds like she felt bad and I think you should forgive her. Give her a break. Bite your tongue sometimes. We all have to learn how to do that,.

I am sorry that it hurt you. You should really sit down and talk calmly about it w/her.

Answer 11

yes

Answer 12

She possibly missed you and all you did was talk back to her and Yes, even the parents have regrets but no matter what you do remember that they love you .

Think about if she was talking back to you and did all the stuff you did.

What would you do? Just do what you think is right and don't ask her why she hit you you obviously knew what you did was wrong just say.

I'm sorry too but that day was alot and i was moody and tired

something like that.

Answer 13

Hi Cola Girl,

Your right you were sassy and talking back to your mom. That may be cause enough for a time out. You then kept up the talking back. Not good. As for hitting your child in the head, I do not approve. She not only did it once, but three times.

What I might suggest is talking to your mom, sharing your feelings on the hitting, make sure you tell her you were wrong for talking back. It seems as though it's not a regular thing for her to hit you. That still doesn't make it right. Yes, she did apoligize. but because shes your mom, it still hurts.

I answered your camp question and was wondering how camp was?

Take care sweetie and don't give up!

Cella

Answer 14

I am sure your mother is very sorry for what she did. This is a very difficult question to answer but I will try my best. Tell your mum that you keep havign these somewhat flashbacks, and explain that you are sorry for what you did but you were on and stressed out, and that maybe her action was a little ott for your "wrong-doing", I hope you can sort it out, I still have flash backs from when I was little crying in the shower and my mum hit my face for screaming when she was tryign to wash my hair, sometimes parents don't mean to lash out but theyh do any way like most people do when under a little stress. Next time, if your mum seems a little tense or stressed out try and lay low, I hope it all works ou for you ok, I am sure you mother loves you very much and you love her very much too, you are her daughter and she is your mother and this is how it will always be. Take care.

Answer 15

well, you know that you pushed your moms buttons-you knew she would get mad, and you did it anyway. parents arent perfect-they get mad when their kids continue to push-you started it, and your mom just lost it- don't be so stupid again, and it probably will never  happen again. if your mom has been beating you all along, then this time wouldn't have been so traumatic-so my guess is if you don't act like a brat, it wont happen again. just remember this incident when you have a kid, and they do the same thing to you.

Answer 16

she's your mom and she loves you....tell her that you forgive her.

Answer 17

that's not a reason to be mad from ur mother,she def. loves u ,forgive her and go give her a kiss,she will be happy.