Should I get a new girl friend ?

Question

My girl friend is giving her self a week to think about things just wants to see how things go over the weeks and maybe get together in a years time she lives with her two kids, she works for her boy friend she split with 2 weeks before me. She drinks Rum and Coke with her Ex some afternoons after work and some of her Co-Workers she thinks thats ok its a normal thing to do.

Answer 1

It seems your new friend didn't give herself enough space to know what she really wants and  at least she is being honest about it finally and perhaps your kindess has made her realise this too... unfortanely you have been put in a position where you need to respect this decision.  Best you do not rush out and find someone else either and be sure next time you connect with someone they have had enough time to journey through grief of loss of a past relationship.

It is difficult to keep a good job and just because she split with an x doesn't mean she can not be civil and work with the man... as for drinks... well I guess if is in the company of other co-workers... winddown  time and even him there really is nothing to worry about if their relationship is finished.

Answer 2

Yes you should.

Answer 3

Don't worry about a new girlfriend, think about getting rid of the one you only partially have. Your self esteem needs to be better than what you are doing indicates it is. Think about if you want to live a life like this. It wont change because you wish it to.

Answer 4

Well. You make sure about your feeling for her and also better ask her whether you have a place in her heart. I'd suggest give her the week she ask for. If after that she still want to think, leave her for good and get another girl.

Answer 5

well if your girlfriend wants to think about things for a week, give her that, and see what she comes up with. If shes still has not made a decision, and appears to be stringing you along, then you might want to think of getting someone new, because your time is precious, and  there are people out there he wont want to play games with you. Her working for her ex, i dont think is such a good idea. She sounds a little confused. The rum and coke is not such a bad thing, and if she needs to drink a little , maybe she is doing it to help clear her mind and get things into perspective. So give her that week , and see what happens.  

Answer 6

just give her time. she did only give it 2 weeks to get with you. maybe she just needs more time to see what she really wants. you know? if shes ready to have another relationship. give her her space, but not too long! make sure yer not waiting around forever. as for having drinks with her ex while she's still with you, i think its a DONT. good luck!

Answer 7

I do think you should get a new girlfriend. you can do better, and you can find someone that wont give you so much grief.

Answer 8

Yes find yourself a new girlfriend would be the best idea.

Answer 9

Hey There! I just read this and thought i'd give ya some friendly advice, first of all having drinks w/ an ex is fine to a point what i mean by that is if they are not includeing you or rather inviting you to go out and have drinks with them, I would be wondering if maybe she still had feelings for him or if they were being just ''friends''. In this case it gets kind of tricky so the best advice i can give you is that if your having any feelings like your unsure of things ( i.e. your relationship) or if there seems to be more then just friendship going on with her and her ex, then you should just talk to her if she loves you (like i hope she does) then she'll nicely and calmly tell you whats up, if she gets mad at you or acts like its no big deal and she cant believe you dont trust her, i would personally think about calling it off, but thats just me.  I wish you the best of luck, and hey if things dont work out dont worry i'm sure you'll find someone you seemed like a really nice guy. Hang in there things will work out, they always do!