Should I get married at age 18?

Question

Before everyone jumps all over me, let me just tell you my story. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years already. By the time we got married, it would be over three. I have been through my hardest times with him and he has always been there. He even moved halfway across the country to live near me so we would work out. We are both very in love and we are both still going to college. I am going to be a pharmacist, he is going into trade school. We know what we want in life. I figure that it doesn't matter what age you find love. If it's there and if it's real, that is what matters. I also know that I will miss out on things that probably all of my other friends will experience but that is their choice in how they live. I have my own choice that's all. Anyway. I just wanted a little advice to help the decision along.

Thank you for listening.

Answer 1

If you and your boyfriend are ready for marriage, then the choice is up to you. Not a bunch of strangers on Yahoo Answers. You're old enough to make your own choices and if this is what you want, go for it. Don't let other people make you doubt yourselves.

Answer 2

Nice story but I still vote no. However, you're going to do what you want regardless, and that's why divorce exists.

As a woman who got engaged at 18 and married at 19, I can tell you that as you spend a few years as an adult, and do some maturing, that teenage "luv" feeling tends to change...sometimes couples that marry young stay together a while, often they don't.

Good luck.

Answer 3

well if your happy and in love go for it, dont listen to what other people say, its your life and you know what you want better then anyone. Good luck and hope i helped!

Answer 4

tehre is nothignw rong wth being together, finishing school and saving for a wedding for a few years away.  finish school, planning a wedding can be crazy busy and you shouyld study and do well.  

And dont you want to be old enought to have champagne at you wedding!

Answer 5

There's no harm in waiting,

if you love each other you can get

married anytime. But i don't see anything wrong

with getting married young.

Answer 6

I think that knowing you want to get married and actually being ready are two very different stages in life.

I think it's great that the two of you want to get married. However, at 18, I don't see what the rush is. Times are different and there's not as much stigma attached to couples who live together first. There's also not as much pressure to get married so young. All I know is, out of about eight family members who got married before the age of 20, six of them are now divorced, and they blame it on just not being ready.

I think that, personally, you're too young. I would wait until you complete your education and are more financially stable and ready to go.

My fiance and I were together almost four years, and within the first year, we knew we wanted to get married (I was 21, he was 22), but we both decided to wait until we were more prepared, and we're both so glad we did because now our wedding means that much more to us.

Answer 7

I firmly believe that physical age has little to do with the age you "should" get married.

I also firmly believe that if you are asking this question, especially to the public who don't know you from a hole in the wall, the answer is a solid and definite NO.

Answer 8

What does age matter? If you feel ready and are both in love then thats all you should be thinking about. I got married at 21 and people said that was too young!!! You are not always going to be able to please everyone so do what is best for you and your bloke.

Answer 9

It's great that you guys are in love and will make things work. If you want, go for it. But if i were you, I would wait. What's another 2 or 3 years when you guys are planning to spend the rest of your lives together? It is your decsion, but I hope the both of you take the time to consider all of the posibilities and outcomes. Save your money for a few years, then get married so you have a large down payment for a house or a car or something! Once you're married, you're married. Whichever you choose though, good luck. :)

-Please don't listen to the people on here that are going to yell and say you're only 18 grow up and get an education! Just because you're young doesn't mean you can't handle things like an adult.

Answer 10

A friend of mine got married right out of highschool...and they are still married, that was in 1982! So I know it works.

Here is my advice.

1.  You say it will be another year before you get married....if in that year you are still together, then great! But don't FORCE it. Don't put on rose colored glasses to stay together. Because even small problems, become huge problems when you are together 24/7.

2.  Watch how he treats females..his mother, his relatives, waitresses...you name it. If he has no respect for other women..then watch closely how he treats you. If he is nice to you "most" of the time but a real jerk to all other women...I would worry.

3.  Hook up with the church you plan on getting married at (or other prfessional capable) and get marraige counceling. It isn't as terrible as it sounds...it is not to see if you should get married...it simply brings up issues you may not have talked about, and allows you to settle them before you get married and maybe causes a problem. Such as how you will handle finances, who does what house work, or who will help with the children....just things that when you don't live together you don't think about.  

Then...you should be fully ready to go...and God bless you both!

Answer 11

I got married at 19.  We went together for 2 years before we did.

18 years later we are divorced and I have 2 children to raise by myself.  He gave me child support but that was it.  His girlfriend had 3 daughters and he catered to them.

My children still have problems because of the divorce and him not wanting to have much to do with them.  They are 34 and 38 now.

I would suggest waiting a few years but if you really feel that its the right thing to do then may I at least suggest waiting to have children? Get to know each other first.  You are both in the right directions with employment.  I would travel if I were you.  Get a house and furniture. And just enjoy being young and in love.

There is plenty of time for the little ones.  

Best of luck.  

Answer 12

h**l NO.

If you were meant to be, you will still be together a few years from now, and you can get married then.  You'd be surprised how many people your age think they're in love now, and aren't with those people 5 years later.  People make a lot of changes and grow up a lot from 18-22, and you need to wait!!  Congrats on being happy, but please wait for marriage.  No need to rush.  The fact that you are asking this question means you are unsure.  Wish you the best, but give it some time!!

Answer 13

If you're ready. I think it mostly depends on your maturity level. Just know that most marriages that happen while you are young end with divorce. So take it seriously. Although you need love, it isn't enough to keep a marriage together.

Answer 14

I was "in love" when I was in highschool (at 18) and my boyfriend and I wanted to get married.  We had been together for 2 and a half years. One day he just realized how young he was and what kind of a future he could have.  It turned out that although I was ready to get married, he wasn't.  I have since then found the love of my life and we've been dating 2 and a half years.  We are engaged now but if I hadn't waited out for the second love I'd never have realized the first was just lust.  I'm not saying give him up but I would wait until you've had some time in college and have experienced the stress that school, a job, and a continual relationship can place on a relationship at such a young age.

Answer 15

i completely agree and understand what your saying, ive been dating my bf for a year only and i already feel that way.  but if you think about it, your not even old enough to drink yet, nor did you start college, if u want my honest advice from experience, get ingaged at 20, that way, by the time you get hitched, you will be old enough to have champagne at your wedding, also you will have a little time to really engage life and parties and everything before you start a family, discuss it with him and see if this is a good idea

Answer 16

Its an understandable question, many people look down on young relationships. I would agree its fine to get married at 18, you can find love young no problem at all.

Obviously its gonna be tricky and like what has already been said, it'll get tough, and no doubt more troubling times will come, I hope you guys keep at it, and endure many years together! :D

Answer 17

If you feel ready, then go for it. You won't miss out on anything unless you let yourself. My fiance and I aren't the party type but we live with two party-hearty couples. It's hard living with people who act like children. We've never wanted to party and we don't have a desire to start now. You only miss out things if you wanted to do them but made yourself miss them. If you never wanted to do that, then you aren't going to miss out on anything. Just remember though, marriage is a commitment and it can be very difficult. So you have to have your mind set on "we WILL make this work" and "this is going to be tough but we love each other". You both need to have that mindset before marriage. But, love knows no age!

Answer 18

You have been through your hardest times TO DATE.  Believe me, things get much harder.  It sounds like you & your bf are on the right path!  That's great news!  Personally, I would still wait until you have finished college before getting married.

Answer 19

Why not!! if u  are in love with him then yes u should marry him, but make sure you are able to support him, and he is able to support you. there is nothing wrong with getting married at the age of 18. why don't you talk to your parents and his parents about this? then maybe you can make  your conclusion from there

Answer 20

Good luck to you and your love.  Sounds to me like you have your minds made up and have a plan.  Just be sure to follow through on going to school.  I think if you are committed to each other and making a marriage work, then go for it.  Just remember that getting a divorce is way harder that just breaking up!!

Answer 21

Wait 6 years.

Answer 22

i agree with u for most of what u said, but i seriously would recommend waiting at least until ur a little into college. once ur married, its like getting a personal invitation to get a baby, and its really hard to support a family in college. But, ur a legal adult now, so, do what ur heart wants, its usually right.

=)

Answer 23

My opinion... and that of the others expressed here really doesn't matter - only yours and his does.  But since you asked for it here goes - if your heart was truly in this you wouldn't be looking for reassurance from a bunch of strangers online.