Should I get out of this marriage?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 5 years. He is away a lot as he is in the millitary. However, when he comes home he does not at all seem very excited to see me. We hardly even have s*x and I am always the one to initiate. I have talked to him about it before but he insists that nothing is wrong and that it's my "imagination". He also once said that he doesn't think he can give me what I want. The thing is, all I ever wanted was him...

At first I was really hurt, now I just feel empty and I think I am even ready to move on. I am tired of being lonely and ignored and has begun to crave the attention of other guys.

What do I do? Tell him it's over or try again?

Answer 1

you are the only one that knows in your heart what you should do..............personally and this sounds like my own life..............which i have just decided to do....................was made him leave ...dont waste your life on someone that does not love you

Answer 2

Sounds like your husband lost interest and u are working with a dead relationship.

Answer 3

Only you know what to do.  The toughest thing is making the decision to leave or not.  The rest will fall.

I will say this.  Life is short to be unhappy and unloved. Chances are, he won't ever change. (possible, not likely)  You may find someone that loves you and gives the love you give back.  If he isn't returning you love; I can relate to how you feel.  Just ended my marriage over basically the same thing.  I am very lonely now, but I was before.  I'm just going to stay optimistice and hopefully the right woman will come along.

Good Luck.

Don't do anything without thinking it totally out.

Answer 4

u sound unhappy and not contented.....better to leave the relation which doesnot make u contented.....

Answer 5

That is what he is waiting for you to do.  He is a very lazy guy.

Answer 6

Hi venus, well is hard because I don't know you but I know what you feel since is the same thing with my wife ever since she started working but all I can say is be prepared because that sounds like he is seen somebody else.I'm sorry to say it like that but that's what I think.

And if you ever need some one to talk just send me and email I can use a friend.

Thanks

Answer 7

yes

you should leave

cuz babe

your not happy :(

Answer 8

My husband is also in the military and I know how it feels to be on the outside of that world, I have an insight that may be helpful though. I was in the military for four years and my job was working in a chaplains office.  I have seen a lot of marital issues and I can tell you that things probably aren't as cut and dry as it may seem.  Seek counseling together! Perhaps you will be able to uncover the real problems if there are any.  I think you owe it to your husband AND yourself to see if you can work this out.  You could go to counseling and find out that the two of you should split, or...... you  could work it out and be very glad you did! I hope it's the later! Good luck and God bless

Answer 9

anything can be worked on in a marriage except abuse or betrayal. see if he would be willing to go to therapy.

Answer 10

I would leave him!

Answer 11

hes being selfish...leave him.

Answer 12

Don't throw in the towel just yet.  Society has made it way to easy to just dump a marriage over the smallest thing.  I am not saying yours is a small thing, I am saying marriage/family is a precious commodity these days and we need to do everything we can to protect it.  Go talk to the base chaplin and see if he can help the two of you work through this.  Let your husband know you are not going to give up without a fight.  He and your marriage should be worth that.

Answer 13

well, he might be suffering things you can't even imagine, especially if "away" means at war.  

try counseling.  you took a vow to stay together for better or for worse and he's not exactly abusive.  try to love him through this, it won't last forever.  You might just end up with a mature, supportive, loving, lasting, beautiful marriage.

I promise you that any couple who makes it to their 50th wedidng anniversary has weathered trials hard than this.  be true to your vows.  if you can't stick to them, what does that say about you?