Should I give my sister another chance?

Question

My sister is 28 and I am 13. She is a very touchy person. She changes her mind a lot. And she plays the love/hate game a lot! She starts fights with me and then she won't even talk to or see me. And then she calls me and says "I'm sorry, I love you. I want you to be in my life." I know that deep down she really means it. But I just don't know if she will ever change. She lives in a house with some other people and her 5 year old daughter. She has an 8 year old son who lives with his aunt right now cause she just went back to school. She just graduated and has a good job. She has this guy who is pretty much her boyfriend now. But half the time he makes her cry. Sometimes she hates him and sometimes she loves him! She broke her hand in June because she was drunk and he made her sad and she punched a cement wall! We used to be really close but now it is just on and off! She is my foster sister. And my dad adopted her when she was 15 or 16. She has a bunch of sisters and brothers who she is now in contact again with. One of her sisters who she has been in contact with for a long time now is getting married next Saturday. My sister is the maid of honor. I am not even going to be in the wedding but I am supposed to go as a guest. I went out and bought an outfit and stuff. They both really want me to go and I want to go. But I am also worried that my sister is going to start something at the wedding and I don't want to s***w it up. I also get really mad because my sister is completely full of herself! I can't stand people who are like that! Please help! I don't know what to do!

Answer 1

Your oddball foster sister has a lot of mental/emotional issues, most probably owing to separation anxiety .

The fact that she is pushing 30 and still creating drama for a 13 year old is indicator enough. I would suggest that you go to the wedding, but try to stay calm and as far off to one side as you can... keep a low profile and let this sister do what she will.

As for the rest of the time, you need to keep your distance from her.

When she arrives at your house, make it a point to evaporate. You don't need the drama.

Answer 2

Just kind of stay calm and let her have her tantrum.Just talk to her about it and be like you are to old to be playing the Love /hate games.

Answer 3

Are sure you are 13? You are very mature in your writing. Hey, listen up!  I can see why you do not want to go to the wedding...there is nothing in it for you. I would bow out. You are putting a lot of emphasis on this women being your sister. I do not see any association other than your Dad adopted her. This so-called sister has problems. Is she a crack baby?

Answer 4

You sound like your the 28 year old. and she sounds like she is 13.She needs to do a lot of growing up.Go to the wedding and have a good time, and if your sister gives you any grief, just tell her to grow up and act like a mother of two. Don't get trapped by her childishness. Walk away.

Answer 5

Girl your sister needs more love.  You must understand though you are still young, she is in her ups and downs of life.  Just understand her.  But I don't think she will do something publicly if ever just ignore her.  Show her your love and in the future she will realise.  

Answer 6

some people go through life being stupid.  if she's 28 and still acting this way, especially now that she has kids, it's a permanent thing.  stay away from this over-adolescent drama mama.  she's nothing but trouble not only to other people, but to her self.