Should I give up on him or Follow my heart?

Question

I like this guy, i met in college he is nice and we hung out a couple of times, he's 10 yrs older than me im getting ready to turn 20 and he will be 30 soon, i really like him, he said he does not want a relationship, he never told me he had a kid and I found out about it I feel hurt he lied to me and never told me about it, and when my best friend talked to him for me he didn't want his dad to know who i was, and that hurt even more should I talk to him or forget about him I care for him alot and he was better to me than my xbf ever was, It hurts i dont know if i can let him go. what should I do?

Answer 1

Tell him how you feel and how the things he has done have hurt you.  But I would think twice about continuing on with him for one he has a child and that can cause problems especially if he didn't tell you about it.  He is also a liar and you don't want to get involved with a liar.   You are to young to deal with that kind of drama.  I would tell him how I feel and then kick him to the curb. You deserve someone who loves you and wants to be with you not someone who lies and doesn't want people to know who you are.  He sounds like a loser to me.

Answer 2

give up hun thats all I can say

besides...

DO NOT LET A GUY STRING YOU ALONG!!!

Answer 3

The first thing about the whole thing that bothered me is the fact that he is almost 30 and concerned about his dad knowing about a woman talks to.  He should be grown up enough not to be concerned about that.

Also, if he lied to you about having a child, what else is he lying to you about.  It seems as though he does not care enough about you.  Hiding that he knows you and lying are two HUGE red flags.

I know this is tough, but let him go.  You can find someone who appreciates you and the wait will be well worth it.  It doesn't seem at all like this guy would measure up to that.

Answer 4

dump him

that not cool

there are alot of nice guy in college,,,

also you are still young .. you just turn 20 go to a club and have fun  

Answer 5

dude i think you should follow your heart of course but when you older 10 years can become a big differnts, maby friends is what you should be for a wile until you know for sure. also if he has a kid your gonna have to be sorda like a step mom at 20, so ask your self if your ready.and remember...follow your heart!

-Celine<3

Answer 6

there comes a time that you must not only follow your heart but your mind. your heart can blind you so let your mind be yours eyes. it sounds like he is ashamed to be with you cause if he liked you he would let people know i mean i would and would not care what others might think about the person i like. hope this helps

Answer 7

forget about him for a few reasons. firstly he is too old for you. and between your two ages you grow and change so much as a person that any chance of a long term relationship is nearly zero. he already has a kid and will prob want to settle down and get married, maybe more kids rather soon...and you will only be 22 23...you want different things out of life at that age...you two are at just too much of a different stage in life for it to possibly work. Also it seems like he has lied to you and held back some truths from you (such as him having a child) I think he just wants some young flesh for some s*x and if your not ready for s*x yet then he will be wanting it rather soon at his age...i would lose him and enjoy your 20's not get caught up in a pointless, using, hurtful relationship that this guy may lead you too.

Good Luck

Answer 8

always follow your heart coz u *** first in ani sitiuation coz theres more fish in the sea as my family is always telling me find yourself a kind guy and just do what u want to do so dont listen to anithing lkike dump him do what u want to do  

Answer 9

theres huge warning signs all over the place with this "relationship". first he didn't tell u @ all that he has a kid...its not really ur business to know but if u two were hanging out a lot then i'd think he'd mention it @ some point. 2 he doesnt want a relationship and u obviously do. u can't make someone go out with u and u can't make them fall in love with u. 3 if he doesnt even want his father to know who u are then there has to be something going on. your best bet would be to let him go. it might hurt but it'll def be for the best. staying friends with him wouldn't be good either u need to be able to find someone that's worth ur time. he might of treated u differently than ur x's and u might think it's better but this guy doesnt want u to know anything about him its like he doesnt want anyone to know who u r.