Should I go get my things?

Question

I had a argument with my boyfriend a week a go and he still has not called me. I have some of my clothes as well as a spear car key at his house.

He has some clothes at my house too. Should I go get my things from his house and give him his clothes? Should I take it that the relationship is over?

Answer 1

How bad was the argument. How was your relationship before this one tiff? If you really like him, and had a good relationship except for this one time, call him. See if the situation is repairable.

Answer 2

maybe YOU should call him and talk and ask if it is over and if so say well i would like to return ure clothes can i have mine back as well as my car key

Answer 3

You should box up all of his stuff and ask a friend to deliver it to him and retrieve your things.  If you contact him or bring the stuff by, it will look like you're finding excuses to be in contact.

Answer 4

If he hasn't called it could clearly be a sign that there is something wrong with the relationship.  It very well could be over.  Sad, but true.  If he has a spare key to you house you need to get immediately, you never know if he would come into the house or whatever.  The first thing you do is get the key and your belongings, don't wait any longer...actually a week is too long.

Your home is a safety net and should be your sanctuary.  If you are no longer with him he should no longer have a key to your home or have any access to your home.  Your clothes and few things of yours that he has are replaceable, but your home is not.   I wish you the best of luck.

Peace & Love :)

Answer 5

Call, text or email him about your things.  If you want to work things with him, call under the idea of discussing your relationship in general.  Are you in-love with him?  If so, tell him.  Maybe the relationship is worth fighting for.... If you both have moved on then text or email to arrange a time to meet up and exchange your personal belongings. You certainly don't want to just show up at his place unannounced to collect your things.  Not only is that rude and low class but you may not like what you find unexpectedly dropping by.

Answer 6

Well I'd call him and figure out where you guys stand. bear in mind that if you stay together, this incommunicado thing could be more than a one time occurrence. But anway, I'd call him. And if you guys are over. Really think abou tif it's worth it. Are there things of actual value (monetary or sentimental) or is it just clothes and toiletries? Because if it's just the basics, then you can do without them, and really, if you actually went back for them, it'd look as if you're trying to make one last attempt at a relationship.

However if there are things of value, call him and ask when would be a suitable time to ocme over and get them and you can give him your things. If he still does not return your call, go over when he is not around, get your things, leave his things, write a polite note and leave it somewhere he'll see it stating that you merely came to get your things, and nothing more, and to return his things and you hope for the best for him. It doesn't mean you want him, it just means that you are being mature and adult.

Answer 7

Well call first. If he doesn't answer, go to his house. You dont' want to appear without warning because he'll call the cops if he's pissed at you! Bring him his clothes and if he's there, ask him if this is it. Take your things anyways. You shouldn't leave things at other peoples house.. no matter how serious you are. You  never know when relationships take a turn for the worse. Good luck!

Answer 8

Go when he is not there and get your stuff.

Answer 9

Who initiated the argument?  Was is about something very important to him or you?  If it was you who started it then call to find out if he is offended enough to leave you.  If it was he who stared it, was it enough to offend you to leave him?

If it is something you warrent breaking up over, then you can phone him to say I would like to exchange our belongings that we have from each other.  If not - and you want to make up then you need to communicate that to him as well.

Should he say to you that for him it warrents breaking up then again ask to exchange your personal items and don't cry.  Show strength and conviction in your beliefs.

Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Yep - go get your stuff and while you're at it return all his stuff, too.  No one likes an ex that hangs onto stuff.

And even if you aren't breaking up, separating your lives that much will force him to come to the table and communicate.  Depending on how he responds should be your indicator as to whether it's cut and run or try to fix things.

Answer 11

You should talk about it to find out.  If I were you I'd get my stuff.