Should I go out with her again?

Question

I met this girl on okcupid and we had a date about a month after talking to each other. A few days later, I spoke with her, she said she had a good time, as did I. Upon asking her out again, she said she wanted to be clear now that at this time she sees no romantic connection but she'd like to go out again.

I think she's great and would like to see her again, but I don't want to waste hers or my time if I'm going to end up getting a line similiar to "Let's just be friends".

Answer 1

Save your money and keep searching if you are looking for a relationship.  I am guessing you are since you are on a dating website.

If you happen to find a person you are compatible with, eventually, any friendship with her will just cause problems.  

Move on.

Answer 2

if she likes you, i dont see why you shouldnt go back out with her.

go for it!

Answer 3

Well she's being very honest with you - we just don't know exactly what she means by that. Is she saying that right now, she's not feeling you but down the road she might? And she's willing to take that chance? Or is she looking for another guy friend? I think it's in your best interest to clear that up with her now, and you can obviously be straightforward and just ask her because she was very up front with you. If she says just friends, tell her you really enjoyed her company but you were looking for something more serious.

Answer 4

Well sounds to me like she has already made up your mind for you. No point in trying to take her out if all she wants to be is friends. You could try to go out with her and maybe she will see the romantic connection you feel. But do you really want to take that chance?

Good luck ^_^

Answer 5

You might as well.

What do you have to lose?

If she said she doesn't see a connection now, that means there may be hope for the future.

Good luck!

Answer 6

One more time. Perhaps she will invite you out this time.

Sometimes flowers blossom slowly - this possibly could be yout life-long partner - or not!

Answer 7

If she sees no romantic connection then why bother going out w/ you again?  You don't need somebody going out w/ you just because they don't know how to say "I'm not interested" and they feel bad!  Forget her and concentrate on finding a girl who actually is interested and who doesn't waste your time.  Good luck - and don't let people play head games w/ you - she's either interested or she's not - pretty simple.

Answer 8

well she said she wants to go out on another date.so it seems quite obvious she wants to maybe see if there may be a romantic connection so ask her out again and see how it goes . and even if it didn't work, having her in your life as a friend is better than not having her there at all.

Answer 9

If you had a good time then I say go on another date.  If your wondering then you are curious right?  It really does not hurt to try another date.  Plus you might not like her after the second date.  Wouldn't you rather make the decision?

Answer 10

Right, because friends suck!!!  ?????

Answer 11

I would say no.  If there is no connection, there is no connection!  You usually know those things pretty quickly.

Answer 12

lol maybe you should go out with her agaiin if you dont have your eye on anyone else because you never kno what may happen

Answer 13

then be nice but tell her you have more friends than you need and really are only looking for a romantic connection at this time, and go about your own ways.

Answer 14

See if she wants to go on a 2nd date or take the money and run!

Answer 15

What did you reply when she said "let's be friends" ??

I hope you didn't say anything that could possibly show you as a needy, insecure or desperate person.

I have the feeling that you were tying TOO HARD or TOO FAST. Did you?

Man. What you should have said is that you want her as a  FRIEND !

Then, after yourfriendship with her is established, Use your magic. Flirt like h**l. Make sexual innuendoes and jokes....etc. This immediately sets up the idea that you are very in control of yourself and that you are going to JUDGE whether you want to be more than friends based on something more than JUST HER LOOKS.

This is something that a woman has most likely NEVER encountered

By the way, if you talk about being friends first, it makes you remember to look past the looks and find out what kind of person you’re dealing with.

Women LOVE it when a man sees in her more than her body. Why do you think poet's never have a problem with women?!

Why do you think rich insensitive a******s get dumped?

How would you feel if you were a woman and you every think your boyfriend thinks about is Having you in bed ????!!!

FACT: Women love s*x. but they don' love to feel like whores.

You can keep up this ‘let’s be friends’ trick as much as you want.

Even after you start dating, still talk about it. It’s easy to

have fun and play with it.

Google David DeAngelo for more on this topic.

Good luck dude.

Answer 16

If you don't want more friends, don't go out with her. It's clear that she does not see you in a romantic way and going out with her again probably isn't going to change her mind.  

Answer 17

i agrre with the other dude:)

Answer 18

Have you got something better to do?  One of the benefits of dating is to learn how people think; what their aspirations are; what works and doesn't work in relating.  You might even make a good friend! If you had a good time before, go out again.  Nothing to lose.  

Answer 19

Why can't you just be her friend?  Not EVERY date is going to lead you to a relationship with that person.  You can never have too many friends, and maybe once she gets to know you, she'll see more relationship potential.  Some of the deepest, most meaningful, long-lasting relationships begin as friendships.

I think you may be hoping for too much out of the dating world.  Relax, meet new people, make friends and enjoy yourself.  You can;'t force romance.

Answer 20

I would go out with her again, worse case scenario you made a new friend and that isn't a bad thing. If she really didn't like you she wouldn't suggest a second date. Maybe she's just playing hard to get?

Answer 21

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