Should I go see him? Some of my stuff is still at his place..(long read)?

Question

Ok, here it is in a nutshell.. i'll try to keep it simple..

Basically, I broke up with my BF a few weeks ago. Everything was fine, and we tried to remain friends because we were friends for a couple years FIRST, prior to dating.

Anyway, it was fine for a couple weeks after we broke up.. we would hang out the odd time and just talk about everything or go for a coffee or whatever. He was sad at first but understanding that we had to break up. I am 26 yrs old and still in university- he is 40, divorced, has kids, etc. Oh, and he's a recovering alcoholic.. which is fine, but here's what happened..

So, last Saturday night was supposed to be our "night" to get together. I waited up for him until 1:30 am when he decided to show up at my place, completely out of his mind!! (drunk, i'm assuming) Anyway, I got upset and told him to leave, etc. So he did.. but then he came back the next evening, and I had to tell him what happened the night before because conveniently, he "didn't even remember doing that." So, we went for a little walk and talked about it, and all he did was apologize. He felt really bad about it.

I told him I was upset because he ditched me that night, and went to his "buddy's place" and got drunk or whatever and THEN showed up to see me.

I mean, I understand that we're broken up now.. so really, what can I expect? But still, he's never done that to me before- when we were friends OR when we were together. Anyway, after our talk last Sunday evening, I haven't seen or heard from him since. He probably thinks he's doing me a favor by staying away from me or whatever, because he knows he upset me, but I eventually do have to see him again because some of my things are still at his place. Oh, and I'm at my parents house for the weekend, and he lives just around the corner in their neighbourhood! So, it's hard knowing that he's JUST around the corner!

What should I do? What should I tell him when I do stop by? Should I go to get my things, or should I wait and see if he eventually comes and tries to talk to me again? Like I said, I haven't seen or heard from him since last Sunday- I know it's going to be awkward when we do talk! Some advice or thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance for any responses!

Answer 1

if its really not important let him keep it

Answer 2

omg... i stopped reading this in the middle! honey... get out of this relationship fast!! he's 40 and immature!!! why would u want someone like this in your life? when you are a wonderful person and is going to school still... why? why bring yourself down to HIS level... people like this NEVER change, they never RECOVER and they never COMMIT! and he will never be what you want... ever. just get out, and find a man who is at your LEVEL and find a man who will never ditch you for booze and friends, and no dont go to his place you shouldnt even have contact with him because this will keep on going and going there is no such thing as being friends with an Ex, it just doesnt happen.... it's very rare.