Should I go to her baby shower?

Question

I found out that one of my friends is having a baby shower. And I did not get invited to it. However, a friend that did get invited and who received an invitation; asked me if I was going. I said no because I did not get invited. So, she text the girl and told her that I was not coming because I did not get invited and she said that she was trying to get in contact with me but couldn't. The thing is I emailed her a couple of weeks ago and she emailed me back and did not say anything about her baby shower. So, my question is should I go to her baby shower even though I did not get invited? One more detail: the baby shower is about a hour and a half away.

Answer 1

why is she throwing her own baby shower? ??

that's odd.

I wouldnt go.

Answer 2

I would talk to the friend yourself and find out what is going on.  Let her know that you emailed and she hadn't mentioned anything about the shower so you feel like maybe she just doesn't want you coming.  Sometimes there is just miscommunication but I would talk to her on the phone or face to face and see if you feel like she really meant to forget or not.

Answer 3

no.. it's a baby shower, not a wild partyy/

Answer 4

i would go! just to make her feel glad that you're there... and also to make her feel a little guilty that she didn't invite you!

Answer 5

No I don't think you should go. It sounds like this friend intentionally didn't invite you - she has your email address and she could have told you about it. Sorry. Besides, it's really far away.  

Answer 6

I would say for sure! There are so many things going on in pregnant lady's heads that we forget tons of things sometimes, even if its the most obvious!  

Answer 7

i would not go. if she wanted you there she would have sent you an invitation. sounds like she is only saying that she has been trying to contact you because she does not want you to be mad at her. i would not drive that far for someone like that

Answer 8

No, if you were not invited. It sounds like she doesn't want you to be there. If she did she would have told you to come. Don't waste your time and gas on someone that doesn't want you there. If she says anything about you not coming just tell her that you didn't get invited. I had a friend like that. All my other friends went but she didn't invited me. So I didn't go but I know now who is my true friends and who isn't.

Answer 9

Nope, I wouldn't go.

Answer 10

Well, maybe she was just busy and forgot to send you an invite or to tell you...I guess I would make a decision based on the friendship...if you are good friends, then I would go...if not, then I wouldn't bother.

Answer 11

No I would not go unless I got an invitation, verbal or text.

Answer 12

if she said yes then i would go. the thing is she may not be doing the baby shower  or it could have been a surprise to her and she found out. also see if you can get a ride with someone and if not then send the gift.

Answer 13

i dont know she did email you back try and get in contact with her again over email and if she dont invite you her self dont go and just forget about her

Answer 14

Dont go....Save urself the drama...she sounds like she didnt want you to come anywho......I personaly dont go to parties n such if I wasnt specificly invited...

Answer 15

I wouldn't; s***w her

Answer 16

No.  If you didn't get invited, it would be bad etiquette to show up.  

Answer 17

What part of you weren't invited are you having a hard time understanding?  She was just trying to be polite by saying it was okay for you to come.

Answer 18

I think you should go sometimes when people are trying to get your address it doesn't occur to them if you email and forget (i've done it)

Answer 19

Nah I wouldnt bother with it, especially if its so far away