Should I go to my sister's graduation?

Question

My elder sis is being a total *****! It's her graduation day n I've been totally helpful. Two days ago I had this big fight with my parents n I was so mad n had bad temper ever since, not only cuz of the fight but cuz she didn’t even bother to come to me and ask me what's wrong, or even try to make me feel better. Although my little sis did that. I never thought she'd do that, but I'm glad SOMEONE cares. So she wanted her hair to be done, I woke up real early for her -on my vacation!!- to go out with her n help her out. I even held her cell n answered her phone calls -from her stupid friends!- so that she wont be distracted. The lady who's responsible of doing her hair didn’t show up so she asked me to DO it for her, I said okay. So we went back home. N I must say I made a pretty good job. Then she wanted me to help her put her fake eyelashes on. Then she started yelling: NO, NOT LIKE THAT, U CANT DO ANYTHING RIGHT. So I told her okay, put them on yourself. Then she was like: God! Ur a terrible person! I cant believe you're doin this on my graduation day. I would never do that if it were u!...

I'm REALLY REALLY mad at her. Cuz I did help her. It's true I couldn't put a fake smile on, cuz I cant.. I'm not in a mood.. But I did help her. I did everything I can. She cant just yell at me cuz she wants me to do something for her. I'm not her maid. She should ask nicely. Now im confused, I don’t wanna go to the graduation. I know I should be there. But I'm not in a mood. Plus, I'd probably ruin it for her.

What should I do??!! Plz help me...

Answer 1

Ask her if she wants you to go. I asked my brother if he cared whether I went or not, and his response was "Not at all. I'm not going myself if I can get out of it, so you shouldn't bother" but in my family there's sort of a tradition of skipping, or at the very least not caring less about, graduations. Neither of my parents attended their college graduations, I skipped my high school graduation, and my parents had to bribe my brother to go to his, and I don't expect anything different from my sister LOL.

Answer 2

try to make her understand that , i m younger than u , and its not my fault, u always dont respect me . first u have to  put me in ur good list.

Ignore her totally but when she totally turn her mood on for u, then be very sweet for her

Answer 3

I think that you should go to your sister's graduation although she was being very rude. You have to realize that it is her graduation. She is probably very nervous about what is going to happen after it. This is probably making her stressed out and the fact that her hairstylist didn't show up probably made her more stressed. You really should do what your heart tells you and be the best and most supportive sister you can be. You don't want to ruin your relationship with her.

Answer 4

HONEY U SHOULD GO,,CAUSE SHE IS A BUNDEL O FNERVES,,HOPEFULLY SHE WILL THANK YOU FOR HELPING HER OUT AFTER SHE GRADUATES,,AFTER HER NERVES CALM DOWN,,BUT IF SHE DOESNT,U WRITE HER A NICE NOTE N TELL HER U LOVE HER,,N HOW U REALLY FEEL,LET HER COME TO U ABOUT THE NOTE,,,,GOOD LUCK PEACE

Answer 5

Holding on to anger is like taking poison and expecting it to kill your enemy.  Whoever originally said it knew what they were talking about.  Holding on to that anger at your parents for the fight you had with them didn't hurt them.  It hurt you by putting you in a bad mood so that a fight with your sister was more likely.  Holding on to your anger at her won't hurt her but could hurt your relationship with her.  Graduation is important.  Having you there is important.  

Just to play devil's advocate your sister is probably feeling very stressed about all this too.  Her day didn't seem to start very well.  It's an important day to look good for and her hairdresser of choice didn't show up.  Instant stress.  Then you stepped in and I'm sure did a good job which was important but still wouldn't alleviate all the stress of not having her first plans follow through.  

I know her yelling at you for the fake lashes wasn't cool but it sounds like this event and/or something else has your whole family on edge and likely to react with anger.  It's not an excuse for the behavior but it might be a time to call for everyone to forgive faster.  Because you are family.  And that is most important of all.

Answer 6

Go to her graduation. Show her some tough love. You don't have put up with being treated like that at all though, sister or not! She's probably just under a lot of stress right now. Or is she always like this? Some people don't know how to handle stress properly and unfortunately take it out on others. Go to the graduation, but don't be fake about it. But also don't ruin it for her. Try to talk to her afterwards and tell her how hurt you were/are. If she is still the same way then simply leave. Eventually it will sink it that what she did was wrong.