Should I have another baby this soon?

Question

My baby is just four months old and she's very good. Myself and my husband always said we would have another in about 2 years, however we are now thinking that we should ttc again now so that we will have two siblings close in age and it's all fresh in our heads. Are we mad, any advice?

Answer 1

No rhyme or reason to it some it;s good for some have problems no way to tell  

Answer 2

It's generally recommended that you wait at least a year to get pregnant (after giving birth), to give your body time to recover.

Emotionally speaking though, having 2 is so much harder than having one, especially as one will be starting to toddle just as you have a newborn to look after.

Another thing is how much does your husband do to help you?

Does your family support you?

Also realise that babysitters are usually more reluctant to look after 2 children.

However it's your chice, no one else's.

Answer 3

If you both feel it's right then go for it.

My friend had a baby boy and got pregnant almost immediately.  She had twin girls early so her 3 kids will be in the same year at school.  Do twins run in your family?

It was a huge shock to her, but they all get on great.  All about routine!!

Good luck x

Answer 4

doctors recommend waiting a year to let your body completly heal, but i know many women who have gotten pregnant that early and it worked out just fine mommy and babies are healthy. go for it, if you dont mind no sleep :)

Answer 5

There's 14 months between my two sons, which means the eldest was 5 months old when I became pregnant again. It was very hard work, but the children grew up together and I wouldn't have changed a thing.

Answer 6

Have them close together!!

Seriously, me and my brother were born close and we never suffered from jealousy or anything 'cause we'd never been without one and other!

Answer 7

You're not crazy "mad" at all! We went through the same thing about 2-3 months after I had my daughter. We stopped using protection and just continued breastfeeding. I haven't got pregnant yet and she is now 7 months old. I am glad I didn't get pregnant right away (although I would have been just is glad if I had!). We are hoping that I get pregnant this winter, maybe around Nov-Jan then my daughter will be almost 1 and the age gap will be really good (a year apart in school etc). She will be old enough to still set a good example and be going through different stages as the new baby, but young enough to be close to the new syblling so they can play etc.

I would try to hold off maybe another 2 months or so, then see how you guys feel. Now my daughter is crawling everywhere and trying to walk, I'm glad I don't have a huge prego belly! lol.

Anyway good luck to you, there is no right or wrong in how you feel, make sure to give your body enough time to "heal" (they say a year, but even I hope to not have to wait that long!), you will know when its the right time :)   Every family is different! Good luck and congrats with your new daughter!!!

<<hugs>> Toni Lynne

Answer 8

you do whats best for you.  some people say its hard with two kids in diapers, but hello!  twins!  you know??  LOL  if you want another one this soon then go for it!  if not, wait!  its really all up to you!

Answer 9

I think it is good for the children and parents to have children close together in age, my two children are 14 months apart, and that is about what yours would be if you concieved at the moment. My children fight but what kids don't? But they also take up for eachother and would not stand by while the other is being made upset, my daughter, who is oldest, will try to console my son, the younger, when he gets in trouble, it aint us and their nana who spoils him, its his sissy. We are acctually ttc this month so we will have one who is more far apart in age, my sister was 11 years older than me, and it was very difficult not having someone around, and also children with close brothers and sisters are more family oriented. It may be hard at first while they are young but it will pay off when they are older. I hope. lol. But the advantage of having them a few years apart is the older one understands more, but then they could also get more jealous the longer you wait, cause they are use to having you all to herself. So I'd say go for it, and I wish you the best of luck

Answer 10

I myself would like a gap of about 2 and a half years I wouldn't want two so young at the same time because I'd like to give them both lots of individual attention when they're small but I know loads of people, both with small children and those whose children are now grown up who say it was brilliant having kids close together, even under a year between them.

Do whatever feels right for you both, good luck.

Just seeing lots of people have said about waiting a year to let your body recover, that is true, the main thing is that you are more likely to go into labour a little early, but anyone I know that its happened to its only been a week or two early and mother and baby have always been fine, though their labours were very fast and one of my friends didn't make it to the hospital but they were still fine.

Answer 11

I grew up with siblings close in age and it's awesome, but it will be crazy! If you're a stay at home mom and your husband helps out a lot with the kids (unlike my dad, who didn't do much except work, eat and sleep) then I don't see why not. Only thing is, your first baby might be "easy" but your second child could be completely different!

Answer 12

On my sons First birthday i found out i was pregnent with no 2. Then it took a year to fall with no3. So Go for it.

Answer 13

thats your desicion

Answer 14

My two are 16 months apart. It is so hard! I thank god every day that I have a good husband who is willing and able to help out a lot. I hard when they are old enough to play together it will be so easy. Right now its not. My stepson (he doesn't realize he's not mine) is 3 years older than my oldest and they play together great. I look forward to all of them playing together.

Good Luck and no matter what have fun!

Answer 15

your not mad..lol i ahve the same thing my kids are 10 months apart because i got pregnant so quick and also i had her pre term. but today i have 2 healthy kids who are 4 and 5 and love each other to death they do EVERYTHING together and alway like to buy stuff for each other too! i cant buy one toy for one because there alreadie asking me where is his/her brothers gift lol

Answer 16

I think the doctors recommendation is to leave it a year for your body to get back to normal, but it's your desicion, if you are happy to do it, then good luck to you!!

Answer 17

why not babies!!!

Answer 18

it would be a good idea to let your body recover first, that way your little girl can be your number one priority and when you have another baby you will physically be ready and you wont ever feel like you missed out on anything from when your daughter was so small.

whatere you decide, good luck

Answer 19

I would do it this soon.  It makes sense, well to me it does.  My brothers have 15 months between them and they are close.  And if Im going to have another baby Im going to do it soon because my son is coming up for 6 months old and I would like for him to have a brother or sister close in age as our other child is 8 and its such a HUGE gap yet I thought that was great, turns out I was super wrong :(  

Answer 20

I think it is a good idea  

Answer 21

if ur ready then go for it, two kids close in age works!! just make sure yr body has recovered, us poor woman!!!!