Should I have another one?

Question

Ok i am only 21 and my bf is 30 and we have a 5 month. He is GREAT with the baby i couldn't ask for a better guy when it comes to that and we both want another one but I don't at the same time. I want one so bad, i loved being pregnant (even though i was sick the whole time) and i LOVE my daughter with all my heart but then thing is I am 21 and none of my friends have any and i don't know if having them close in age is good, I am just wondering if you guys have had 2 kids close together and if it was good or bad to have them so close in age. Also is it bad i want another one when we aren't married yet? I have so many thoughts in my head. I want one so bad but i have a baby all ready... I just love kids so much and so does he, but some of me says i should just wait.

If you had kids or know someone that had kids close togther what were the ages and what are the good and bad things about it.

Thank you so much for all your help!

Answer 1

My mom had me and my brothers on 7/12/68, 12/31/69, 10/31/71, and 10/8/73. We were very close, because of the closeness in our ages. It was nice to have others around that were about the same age, but I bet it was really hard on her raising us so young. She was 16 when she had my oldest brother. Me, on the other hand, I waited 5 years between my first and second child and they fight like cats and dogs. Best of luck with whatever decision you make!

Answer 2

It's actually very normal to want another baby right away.  However, it will prove difficult for the first few years if you do have them this close.  I recommend waiting a year before trying again.  Then, you can make sure and "be there" for your daughter during this crucial development stage.  My friend had three children, two were very close together and she had a heck of a time trying to handle one small child while being sick, etc. with another one.  She waited a year for the next one and it seemed to go a lot smoother.

Answer 3

Get married and enjoy that before having another one. I waited 5 years and surprisingly they get along great and my oldest can fend for himself when the younger one needs my help. That's my opinion

Answer 4

You're still high from the birth of your first, which is why you're thinking of having more. Get your life stable first. Get married. More children can follow later once you have your little family established. Who cares if none of your friends have kids? It's not about them.  My kids are three years apart, and it's a good space between.  My son was able to do more for himself and help me when his sister arrived.  

Answer 5

I understand. I'm only 25 & just found out today that I miscarried what would have been my 3rd child. To be fair to your current child, I'd wait until she's at least a year or so & then start trying. That way she'll get plenty off attention while she's a baby. I'm sure you'd have in your mind to still give plenty of attention if you had another, but with a baby, there's no way for her to still get a whole lot. And since she's young she doesn't understand. Plus it would be a lot easier on your body as well as your mind to wait until she's more independent & at least walking. That's just my opinion of course & do whatever feels right! But I would definitely say if you're having any doubts, maybe that's a sign you should wait a little while! Good luck either way!